Changes in boyfriend

I think the statement that all your trust is gone because he didnt want to come over when you had a stomach ache is really over the top. Plus with covid19 and him living with his parents makes it valid not to come. I also feel your statement after for him to make it up to you is rather manipulative. It shows you were not really in need but you simply demanded his attention. And he said sorry already.
If in a bigger way however, you feel he doesnt care about your wellbeing, he gets annoyed with you in how you do and say things, he takes you for granted, he doesnt let you in his way of thinking etc then i would say that Yes: you might want to reconsider if he is a good potential husband. If its hard for you to decide then ask family and friends how they view your relationship.

Hi Newbie, but he was coming the next day, why not today? When in actuality you are needed more today. And it wasn’t just stomach ache, its very stupid of you to assume that I would want someone to come and look after me because of a stupid stomach ache, when I clearly write it was “terrible stomach infection”. I was puking blood everywhere and was getting repeated panic attacks. I was not in the state to even book a cab to take myself to the hospital. I was in need that’s why I called him. Also even in these covid times, living with his family also, he was able to easily manage to come and see me every week, so why did he have to avoid coming over when I was sick?

Look if youre really sick and spitting blood you call a docter. In covid19 times its very unwise to let other people near you if youre sick. Buy i also agree with ewa, this is a personal preference, i dont want people around me when im having sick. But if you do, and he doesnt want to and that is a dealbreaker then by all means break up with him.

And I wanted him to make up for his behavior to see if he genuinely felt bad that he could not come but should have as he said in his apology. If he really felt as bad as he was making it out to be, surely he would have wanted to do something about it, because that’s his personality and not me being manipulative.

And please people should stop using this covid excuse for not doing what is required. Your fear for covid doesn’t stop you from visiting someone to get sex but when it comes to looking after them when they are sick, you cry covid. Obviously I love him and don’t want him to fall sick so I am not going to ask him to come near me if I experience covid symptoms. I had no covid symptoms.

well you mentioned sex, so obviously I know you are in relationship, but it makes me think if he knew you are sick and he won’t be sleeping with you maybe this is why he was not interested in seeing you on that day

Ewa, exactly. And I find THAT unattractive.

Newbie, I don’t bicker. I think you just love to make assumptions about things. And if finds the relationship unpleasant he should have the balls to break up or talk about it, not treat someone badly or not do things that he should.

It is blaming the gf who has been cheated on. That it is her fault, her bitchiness or whatever that made te guy cheat. What bs? He could have ended the relationship if she was a bitch.

Not sure why so many posters disagree with you or try to paint you as some needy princess. I totally get why you are frustrated.

It does sound like he just couldn’t be bothered with your sick self and was looking for excuses not to see you.

I am not the sort of person that wants people around me when i am sick, but i do get into bad shape with anxiety and then i do need someone there. If this was me and my bf would refuse to support me in a time i felt i really needed him, i would end the relationship. Bc what’s the point? I don’t need a partner who isn’t there for me when i am in distress and has nothing to offer but weak excuses.

Also about the covid concern: it sounds like his mum is the concerned one (totally legitimate btw) not him. He seems to just use it as an excuse.

Thank you cupcake!

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