5 dates and still NO kiss

No he doesn’t always pay and he doesn’t compliment me or call me sweet names. In fact, I’m not 100% sure these are even dates!

We did meet on a dating app though so I assumed he wasn’t just looking for a friendship.

I am not sure if there’s any romantic chemistry. I felt the most on our last date, but they also have a very friendly vibe to them. I’d truly think we were just friends, but I’m not sure I understand the point then of asking me out so frequently. I feel like there’s got to be something I’m missing.

Ciara,

Maybe he is just wanting to take it slow? Maybe this is how he operates.. That said you can’t really fight romantic chemistry, so if you are getting the friendship vibe then maybe that is all this is.

“if he was attracted to you he could not stop himself from wanting to touch you.”

I don’t agree with that at all. It’s called self control, and believe or not some men do have it. My friends husband didn’t even kiss her til their 3rd date, she basically had to pounce him! lol. His reasoning was he wanted to take it slow, because he didn’t want to screw anything up.

Men who take it slow are not creepy!

Sometimes the guy is just wanting to take things slow or is being respectful. Maybe try to do some sort of physical touch, maybe try to touch his hand or something and see what he does.

Last guy i dated for 3 months took 4 dates to kiss me or hold my hand. I also started to feel like maybe he just wants friendship. But once we both got the courage to kiss, it was the most intense and passionate kiss I’ve had in a long time! We had intense sexual and physical chemistry.

Guy i dated before him took 7 dates to even put his arm around me. We had our first kiss also on that 7th date and we dated for 6 months.

So Id say dont automatically assume he is not interested romantically as some guys do like to take things slow. If you really want to see how he’ll react, if it feels natural, you can always try to make the first move.

So we had another date tonight. It went really well and I felt like it was more romantic than it had been previously. He was more touchy and kept trying to pay for stuff. But then at the end of the night, still no kiss!! I was sure it was going to happen this time.

I couldn’t stand not knowing any longer why he wasn’t kissing me so I texted him and asked if we’d just been hanging out as friends. He replied saying he wasn’t sure, that he liked hanging out with me, but wasn’t sure where my head was at. So i brought up that i assumed we were just friends because he’d never tried to make a move. And he responded saying he was worried it would have been impertinent to kiss me and that next time it would be a date.

Anyway, I still feel like I’m missing something. Who lives in the 21st century and thinks its impertinent to kiss someone on the 6th date? Ugh! He doesn’t strike me as an old fashioned romantic so i feel like he’s hiding something. Any further advice would be appreciated. thanks!

Run, run, run away. How much chemistry is there between you? Personally, I’ve got to have some heat going on from the very beginning, but it depends on the kind of relationship

hardwired to be “turned on” by particular things. I truly believe this, based on personal experiences.

Umm… The initial stages of dating SHOULD be more platonic IMO. The second you kiss someone, the intent is taken to a different place. The beginning is about figuring out if you enjoy one another’s company then if you do to the extent where you’re romantically inclined, you move to that next level of physical investments- holding hands, kissing, sex… But once that step is taken it’s extremely hard to go back so some people just prefer to take their time. I think it’s quite sweet to have that first kiss tension or that heart pounding excitement the first time he grabs your hand. I’d say the first 3 or 4 dates should be more a feeling of friendship and building rapport

Amy S, how would drinking more help? Not sure what you mean…
Doesn’t have to stick his tongue down your throat, but 5 dates is a long time. If there is tension and heart pounding going on, as Jenny says, then I agree. As long as that’s there–that’s great. And it doesn’t matter how soon you become intimate as far as hearing from him again. If there something there, you will hear from him again. The universe puts people in my life, and things go where they go. I do agree though, Jenny, that you can’t go back once you get physical–especially there is chemistry. If my daughters father, to whom I was married for 15 years, and I had waited and gotten to know each other, we would have realized we were not compatible–a cancer and a gemini–not a good match. However, we would not have had our beautiful daughter that we carefully planned 10 years into the marriage. Life is a journey of happiness and sorrow; but there is no love purer than between a mother and child.

I think I’d be turned off by this. IMO, 5 dates is a really long time to not give a signal that you are interested in something more than friendship. Taking it slow is great, but you can still be respectful and take it slow while allowing someone to see that you are attracted to them. Even a little kiss with no tongue would convey interest.

I’d also be concerned about what this might signal about his personality in general. He might be a very passive person who never wants to make the first move, risk rejection, take chances, etc. His response to your questions seems like he doesn’t have strong feelings about anything–like he’s just waiting for you to make the move and will go along with whatever. To each their own, but that wouldn’t be the type of partner I’d want to get involved with.

See how he handles himself now that you’ve brought it to him, but if he doesn’t step up at this point you might want to friendzone him and move on.

Just get drunk. Alcohol solves all of life’s problems

How do you all go back so far and comment not realizing how old the post is?!

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