Would you end things over a statement that was said?

He does work weekends. He asked me to be patient with his work schedule we have been planning to meet. We were supposed to meet one weekend but my ac went out and I had to get it fixed.

I deleted his number and messages. You can’t for someone to talk to you.

Hugs. I had a similar situation happen when I gave advise to a man I was dating about something he said he wanted to do. We were exclusive, the conversation was less than 15 minutes and yes, I gave advise he did not ask for, but he shut down and ended our relationship very soon after without trying to fix it. We had even discussed talking through problems and in the end, I am still guessing if that was the issue because he never articulated anything other than he was no longer into it.

So firstly, you should not be invested in men you have never met or are not your boyfriend. Why did you never meet?

He did not technically break things off because there was just talking. Is it rude? Yes, but again why are you invested in a man not your boyfriend and never met.

That said, there are times when someone is so triggered and just exit. Not everyone is capable of talking things through.

You learned some lessons here….

Btw, the point of my story is that some people get triggered and leave.

My relationship was only a few months old, he was committed and we had seen each other at least 20 times. He still was unable or unwilling to fix it or accept my apology. That is not the man for me: won’t be pushed gently on his dreams, wont articulate a problem, can’t self sooth and can’t repair relationships or forgive. Next man please. Confident men can do all those things

Great that you see that!!!

Please add not investing in men you have never met or are not your boyfriend or long distance …that is called fantasy relationships. You never knew this man, yet you had expectations that were not based in reality.

It is a sign of unavailability and insecure attachment on your end, not his.

From what you said he is ignoring you so i dont see the point of breaking it off when he seems to have done that already. I think he overreacted to what you said. But he was already pulling back so it doesnt really matter

A man will let things like this go IF you’ve developed a strong enough bond. Before one has been made however, its very different, and easy to let someone go that you were already two feet out with.

Bringing up this type of topic when he was already looking to exit was the ammunition he needed to end it and make you look like the bad person. Never give ammo to someone who is already backtracking (looking for an out) as it will be used. I’ve done it to guys when a crass assumption was made bey them where any apology or sorry on their part was a futile waste of energy—it crossed way over the line to the point of no return.

It wasn’t going to work anyway so best to end it now instead of doing it the dentist way. Like they say “an opportunity lost, is an opportunity gained.” You are now freed up to find a new guy, preferably local. I do suggest in the future you don’t make those kinds of statements or assumptions about people in this manner; it was insensitive and offensive IMO.

I think he was either married or had a girlfriend already. All the cancelled plans and built-in excuses points to that to me. He was never going to meet up with you. There would always be a reason why he couldn’t. He even had a built-in excuse to pull back even further-he might have to move for work. I hate to be so cynical but I am someone who has been through it all and when someone makes plans and keeps breaking them, usually there’s someone else.

Have you two even met in person?