why do men do this?

I have a male friend in his late 30s who has never been married and is not sure whether he wants kids or not. He doesn’t really like them all that much. He started dating a single mother anyway, and got into a serious relationship with her perhaps to see whether or not he could do the family thing. Turns out he can’t. He’s made this pretty clear to her as well.

So she breaks up with him, can’t handle not being without him, and rushes back to him, thinking (I imagine) that he’ll eventually see the light and change his mind. I know him well. He won’t.

Why should he stop seeing her (other than for obvious reasons)? She gives him great sex, companionship, help with his business–all without the commitment of living with her or having to be a stepfather to her son.

At this point, I say it’s her own fault for the inevitable heartbreak she will have to endure, but that’s women for you…always naively thinking and hoping the man will change if just given more time.

That doesn’t matter. He isn’t committing to you or returning that love. Your feelings don’t make a difference to him, so why stay?

“You may lose a lot of options you like, you have limited control over who comes next, and the reality that you will end up going circles with a warm body looks remote when you are the new thing he’s chasing.”

That is true, but I don’t mind because I take dating very seriously. I’m a serious lover, I know what I want even when I was 5 (LOL), to have a boyfriend who I could share the world with, get married and have our legacy. So I don’t do casual relationships or hookups. I filter like insane.

I applied that principles since I was a teen, and yes my choices were limited. I had a lot of dates, guys swooning over me, but I never had a real BF, not a LTR back then. This continued and I was the attractive girl who was still single and virgin until I was 26. Did I get peer pressure? Family pressure? Feeling weird? Nope… Because I have God, I LOVE myself and I’m so confident at the kind of healthy loving relationship I want, I don’t feel sad. Lonely yes, depress no.

Two years before I met my BF, I went on dates with 5 different guys in one year. Now, this is an absolutely rare case for a girl who is a model! I filtered very seriously, and ended up with these only. And these 5 guys were very potential dates looking for ltr too. They’re good looking, successful, sweet, romantic, smart and very gentleman. I didn’t start a relationship with any of them because of unable to connect? Boring? And two of them were because of ldr, which I’m not really interested.

After the fifth guy that year, I didn’t go on any dates for 6 months. I told my best friend I’m going to be single if that’s what God wants.. One week later, I met my BF! Now, I’m with my BF of 2 years, who is perfect in every aspect for me (nobody is perf, but he is to me lol). The first time we met; our first exchange of glance, smile, words…connection… It’s crazy. I’m experiencing the kind of love I want and I never regret jumping into relationships. I lost my virginity to him and the sex was beautiful and passionate. After two years together, I still have occasional butterflies lmao. Everyday with him is paradise.

It’s worth waiting for the right one. I could continue to be single and happy until 30 if my man hasn’t appear :)