Why do guys never like me?

I know I’m about to come off extremely insecure in this post, but I can’t help it anymore because now that is literally how I feel. I’m 19 years old, in my freshman year of college and I’ve only kissed one guy in my life, and it was at a party so basically meant nothing. Not exactly how I pictured my first kiss would go. I’ve never had a boyfriend or been on a real date. While I know dating can be tricky, in both real life and online since everyone has so many options now, I just don’t get why no guy has EVER taken an interest in me. While most of my friends have never really had boyfriends either, they still get male attention while I’m basically the wallflower. In high school, it didn’t really bother me because I was really focused on getting into college, but now that I’m almost 20 years old, the fact that boys always seem to overlook me is really starting to get me down.

The latest guy is what really got me thinking about this. I had a huge crush on him and I thought he liked me too because he’d always joke around with me, say I’m such a nice person, and one time, he even said I was too pure for this world. I thought these were all positive things as I am a Christian girl with morals, a good personality, and I think I’m pretty decent in the looks department. I have so much to offer and he seems like the type to need a good influence since I know he’s been through some rough things in his life, so I thought we’d be a good match. We became really good friends and we’d hangout all the time, in between classes and on weekends until one day. I was so sure he was going to ask me out. But then, one day he tells me he met this girl who’s in a sorority and is one of my mutual friends. He kept on saying how beautiful she is and telling me that he plans to go after her. I was so shocked and hurt and basically confessed my feelings, to which he said that I’m not really his type and he sees me as just as a friend. I asked him what does she have that I don’t (stupid and desperate, I know) and he said that I’m really cool, but that he and her have a connection. Like, what does that even mean? I’ve seen her around and she is really pretty and girly, like she always wears these lace tops and tight skirts. I’m not trying to bash her in any way, but I would never expect them to be together because of how opposite they seem. My crush is more of a bad boy type, he’s been to jail twice amongst other things.

But anyway, this isn’t even really about him, it just worsened my insecurities basically. I would say I’m nice to guys and have no problem getting along with them, but no one ever seems to want to chase me like he wants to for her. I thought guys liked girls like me, pure and stuff. It’s starting to really get me down and I don’t know if I should try to change or just wait and hope someone finally likes me for me.