What to do when the potential date guy sends you his nude pic?

Hello everyone,Sabrina, and Eric,

It’s my first time asking for dating advice on forums as I really found myself confused about this guy that I like a lot, and I would appreciate someone’s input. For about last 6 months I have been in touch with a guy that I had a one night stand with about 7 years ago. It was a great night and we both felt the same way about it back then and when we remember it. After that one night stand, he wanted to see me again but I never let him visit me again because in my mind i couldnt imagine that he would like me for something more than just sex (for the record, we did everything EXCEPT full inercourse. Also, I was young, and inexperienced with guys so after sleeping with him on a first date i didnt believe he could actually like me). Anyways…we have been in touch every day, chatting on Facebook for hours about normal stuff, our dreams and fears, and we had some dirty talks occasionally. The memory of that day and night we spent together was very strong for both of us. I always regretted not giving him a chance, and he often “dreamt” about me. He works in the US army and he has been on deployment until now so we set up a date for him to visit me in couple of months when the time works best for both of our schedules. I think we are pretty honest with each other, and I think he is not looking for random hook ups from what he is saying. (he wants to be intimate and connected with someone.)I do think he likes me only for sex, but he definitely wants to have sex with me really really badly. He is a perfect gentleman though, and also he is rather a peaceful type of guy with a wild side – just like me. So…what happened was that today he sent me his nude pic and I didn’t know what to respond. I was shocked because i totally did not expect that even though we talked dirty. At first, I asked him “how am i supposed to respond to that”. He apologized and said however i wish. I do like him a lot, and we seem to have not only good chemistry but also have the same view on many aspects of life and relationships. So.. i though about it, and wrote him back something like “i think you are a very attractive man but I don’t like when a guy that I’m potentially thinking of dating is sending me his intimate pic…if he likes me and is potentially thinking of dating me, i suggest him to control his passions”. He apologized, and also mentioned that “for the record, we met before and were intimate”. We had talked about potentially dating each other, we are calling each other “my man”, “my woman” (we are not committed officially though – we havent even seen each other since that one night stand so it would be stupid to decide something like that online!) He knows that im interested in commitment. He said he understands that. Anyways, so he apologized for sending the pic and i think he felt pretty embarrassed about the situation. I think he might just felt really comfortable with me (after all we did see each other naked, were intimate, and we talk about EVEYRTHING including occasional talks about our fantasies about each other. But those fantasies are not vulgar rather very sensual and loving.) He didnt want to talk further about that situation so I back off. I tried to talk about something else but he shut down. I know he feels pretty comfortable with me. He had broken heart many times and he was afraid of opening up to me, but slowly he did over those last six months. I’m quite easy going but he also knows that I have certain standards and that’s what he likes about me – that he has to “work for it”. I really, really like him a lot in and i do think he is intelligent and an awesome guy. Shit happens to everyone though. What should i do with this now? I would usually get a massage from him right about now, but i think it’s not gonna happen. I dont know if he is hurt, embarrassed, or what else. But more than that, I wonder what should I do in this situation. Should I let him have his space and wait to see if he reaches out? I am afraid that he is embarrassed and “lost trust in me”. Should i wait few days and just say random hello and see how he responds to that? I am so anxious and afraid that’s the end. I like him a lot and want to give this a chance. Please respond.