Unmatch on Tinder after hooking up. How would you feel?

My honest reaction? I wouldn’t even notice it. I’ve been using Tinder and I don’t notice it if men unmatch me or if I do then I just laugh it off because who cares, right?! :))

If he unmatched you in Tinder but still talking to you then I wouldn’t really know the reason behind it. You can just straight up asked him as you’re curious why. But if he is no longer talking to you after unmatching you then I’d just leave it and wouldn’t let it bother me.

Maybe he didnt unmatch you and just deleted his tinder?

Maybe you weren’t that great in bed. When he asked if you wanted to see him again, I think he just wanted to know if he was great and when you said yes so you confirmed his ego about sex that he was good for you. However, since he already got your contact info, he unmatched you so your name wouldn’t pop up in his search any more. The reason he keeps talking to you is to keep you for desperate times.

Silvie if you are willing to sleep with a guy and not have a relationship or even spend time on getting to know what hes about, you will have stuff like this happen because you are sleeping with guys that are not winning you over with their care and trust. They have you on a plate and will not see you as high value. You are a hook up, they dont owe you squat nor you them. So if you want to be high value and have hook ups then you have to be willing to accept that theres no expectations from guys you are meeting in this way. Theres no trust, companionship, intimacy its just a physical thing. Can you handle that, can you detach completely and see these guys as playthings, sex only, or do you need to rethink what you are doing ? It sounds like you cant handle it and lets face it not many can. x

Maybe he did it so that you can’t see him online anymore? Maybe he wants to see you again but doesn’t want you questioning his online activity.

It’s good you can laugh at yourself, a lot of people can’t, it’s a good trait ☺ just don’t sell yourself short on tinder or any other site

Sorry but I am in agreement with Maria-it is unfair,but men still seem to separate “sleep with chicks ” from relationship/commitment material women. Hook up if you want but don’t look to be viewed as “high value” if you do.

High value woman wouldn’t notice the un match and if she did she wouldn’t care two hoots. If it bothers you enough to have to post here you care what he thinks of you and you shouldn’t be doing NSA.

Ok I will stop here. You guys are right. I will take a break from dating altogether, strings attached or no strings attached, because I’m reading my post again and all I can think is “Why the hell do you care…? These people are right. Go get a beer or something. And therapy. Lots of therapy.”.
I don’t know how much this means to any of you, but you really helped me. Kisses

I had about 6 months of unbelievable awesome fun on Tinder before meeting my BF on there. (Wasn’t looking for a BF — it just happened) I didn’t care what anyone thought about me those days and I had an amazing time!

That being said — IF you are looking for a BF — Tinder is not the place to be. Many men do have a skewed view of women that are sexually liberated and will not put you in the potential-girlfriend category. (My boyfriend is very progressive in his thinking and we BOTH weren’t looking for anything serious when we met)

Anyway — as for what you’re doing — don’t give a thought about this guy unmatching you!!! I always unmatched my guys after we exchanged phone numbers to keep my match list “cleaned up”! LOL I even had a couple guys ask why I deleted them and I just told them the above. That gently reminded them I was serious about not looking for a BF.

I encourage you to consider that you seem to be putting a lot of emphasis on this current guy not disappearing and on his actions on the app — and that is completely contrary to what you’re saying you’re looking for. Casual no-strings-attached sex is just that. No promises. No checking in. No expectations. Sure it’s great if the sex is good if the guy doesn’t disappear. But you need to adjust viewpoint if you really want to do casual.

@T from NY Great point of view. “Many men do have a skewed view of women that are sexually liberated” -unfortunately I am aware this is true. Thank you :)

Hi Silvie.

The problem with trying to have NSA is your hormones. Women secrete a concoction of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin (one that bonds a mother to her child at birth), etc. during and after sex which is very power stuff! Men however do not, most of theirs is release BEFORE sex and depleted by the end which is why they don’t bond during sex like a woman does.

Mother nature intended for men to spread their seed, and woman to nurture and raise their offspring—its in our DNA and no amount of women’s liberation is going to change our genetic coding. He’s out there spreading his seed and your stuck with the hormonal aftermath which is your bodies way of telling you that your not cut out for NSA sex.

It usually means no longer interested