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    Hotdogfox

    Hey guys,

    I texted a guy I was suppose to hang out with for a first date to confirm plans. We set a date, but didn’t set a time or place. I texted him pretty early this morning and never got a response. Should I go ahead and make other plans? I don’t really appreciate being left on read all day long.

    #939673 Reply
    Hotdogfox

    I should add our plans we’re for this upcoming Friday.

    #939674 Reply
    peggy

    Some guys are a little looser with planning etc. That may not be your style though.
    I think you should have waited to see if he contacted you tomorrow or even Friday morning.
    You likely came off as pushy or naggy. But he was rude not to text back.
    I would leave things and see what happens, and if he contacts you and what he says. Does he have a firm plan?
    But anything later than 11:00 on Friday or less than a time and place etc. and an apology for not getting back to you; and i would just decline and say you made other plans.

    #939675 Reply
    Hotdogfox

    Thanks Peggy!

    This is the first time I have ever reached out to him so hopefully not! Just wanted to have a firm time to plan my day around. What’s done is done though! Lol

    #939676 Reply
    Hotdogfox

    I also just said hey what’s the plan for Friday?

    #939677 Reply
    Tallspicy

    He gets 24 hours to respond. But if it is longer, it is up to you if you want to make other plans. But, you should have waited to see if he showed up with a plan.

    #939678 Reply
    Maddie

    I agree, see if he gets back to you at a reasonable time tomorrow, and if not, it’s up to you if you want to make other plans.

    I actually think it’s fine you tried to confirm, because I live in a city where people are incredibly flaky on dating apps and it’s very normal to confirm a date (though it’s usually that same day, maybe the day before), especially one without a set place or time. I’d had lots of guys reach out to confirm with me due to them getting stood up a bunch, and occasionally I’d confirm first. If I didn’t get an answer back fairly quickly, they were too flaky and I did make other plans. No loss at all, those guys never followed up anyway! But once or twice there was a delay in response because they were sick and waiting to see if they got better before confirming / postponing the plans.

    In general, a guy who made vague plans with me in the first place and who didn’t get back to me within 24 hours wasn’t serious about dating anyone, and we never ended up making it to the date. So as was already said, it may be a sign that the guy won’t be a good match, either due to being more last minute in style than you or not taking dating seriously.

    #939679 Reply
    Hotdogfox

    Maddie are you in Seattle by chance?! 😂

    #939680 Reply
    Ewa

    girl for the future, no time no place = no date

    #939681 Reply
    Maddie

    I’ve lived and dated in multiple cities across the US over the years. So I can give you validation that it’s not you, and the entire PNW annually makes the top of the worst dating lists for a reason. Just keep filtering out any inconsistent nonsense because dating should be easy when it’s a good guy, not draining or confusing guesswork. Don’t lose hope, I learned to let the flaky trash take itself out and now I’m married 😆

    #939683 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    I think it was a bit premature to text him on a Wednesday when you were supposed to hang on Friday- I think texting the day before would have been better. BUT, I don’t think it was totally out of line for you to have done it. The fact that he made a date with you without setting a time or place to begin with is somewhat fishy to me, personally- it reeks of a guy who’s not serious.

    So I don’t think it was wrong to reach out– personally I think if he left you on read all day (!), I would write him off. There’s no excuse for leaving you on read for 10 or 11 hours– he could have at least acknowledged the text and said he’d get back to you, even if he didn’t have specific details.

    Generally I think guys who are vague about making date plans aren’t serious; in my experience, guys who are serious about dating will act like it. They will make a date with you with specific details (like time and location), or they will follow up (without you having to reach out) to settle those details.

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    Andrea

    🤡🤡🤡

    #939701 Reply
    Raven

    Did he follow through?

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