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June 26, 2022 at 8:04 pm #934655
Hi everyone. I am single and a few weeks ago while out with friends a guy gave me his number. He could not be less mg type. There is a sizable age gap (which is fine for a lot of people – no judgment from me – it’s just not my personal style), we are socially very different and he could not be further from what I would refer to as “my type” physically. Nonetheless I did find him intriguing and smart and I was a big fan of his big personality so I texted him a few days later. We hung out one time and he texted me a few times after but – even though I had a good time – I was short in my responses bc of what I said above about what I deemed our lack of compatibility – and he eventually got the hint. That was two weeks ago or so. I’ve thought about him a lot since and today for some reason I just can’t get him off of my mind! I texted him a hello/check in type of text and he replied back immediately and we “chatted” a bit. I can’t help but wonder if this is my brain playing tricks on me though as I am a *master* self saboteur when it comes to relationships. I typically run to the things that aren’t good for me and away from the things that are but typically the things that aren’t good for me are the players/guys who are only interested in one thing – and that really doesn’t seem to be this guy. I’m over analyzing, yes, but I really can’t put my finger on what it is about this guy that has me feeling this way and I certainly don’t want to be fickle or inadvertently mess with his head. He’s just not at all my typical go to kind of man! Any thoughts? Thanks!June 27, 2022 at 12:01 am #934656
What is the age gap?
What are the compatibility issues??June 27, 2022 at 1:01 am #934657
He is more than 19 years my junior and I’m a bit more conservative than he is. I drink but I don’t smoke or do drugs – he does (weed, but still a difference nonetheless.) I’m pretty type A (I need to be with my crazy schedule) and he is much more lax than I am. Those are the biggest differences (in addition to the fact that he’s not someone whom I’d describe as my typical “type” physically. I’m interested obviously so I guess I’m not too caught off guard by that part but that’s an absolute difference from my norm.) Thanks for taking the time to respond by the way.June 27, 2022 at 9:58 am #934660
I think 19 years is a sizable age gap. different personalities is not such a big issue. Sometms we just enjy spending time with a person regardless of the fact that our interests and thought proceses are very difrnt.
I think if you enjoy interacting with him you shld stay in touch and meet up occasionally. Like you wld with your other frnds.
However in terms of having a relationship, the differnces along with a 20 yr almost age gap may be a big hindrance.June 27, 2022 at 10:03 am #934662
Oh my goodness I’m so sorry – that was a typo and I completely missed it. He’s more than 10 years my junior, not 19. Wow sorry about that!