Is it wrong not to tell him I'm pregnant?

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January 13, 2016 at 4:19 pm #497450

Melania

As for adoption, he say its the only path he cannot accept. If we decide to keep then he said we’d do everything to take care of it despite the hurdles and being difficult, but he says he would not be able to give his own child “away”.

January 13, 2016 at 4:28 pm #497453

Melania

Sorry for posting so much, its just a special situation I didn’t expect and never had before. He seemed more keen in termination because we are not ready, but he is just lying his head on my belly and asking “so where is the baby exactly?” And when I showed him, he just put his hand and let’s it there while watching TV together.

I just find it sweet. Never saw that side of him and makes me have million mixed feelings.

January 13, 2016 at 10:10 pm #497545

hannah

Melina I am so glad it went well! He sounds like a lovely guy and now you know you can depend on him in a crisis. He’s not the person you thought he was , he’s a far better one.

Like you say, bad things can bring out the best Iin people and show you who is really there for you.

Take time over your decision. It is life changing! There’s no big rush if you’re unsure. Make the right decision for you because ultimately the care of a child or the experience of termination will mainly fall on you.

I’m with your boyfriend. Adoption would be totally out for me too.

January 13, 2016 at 10:53 pm #497549

kaye

Melania,

Please don’t apologize for posting too much!! We all want to hear your news and I am so excited for you with the outcome of your talk!! I can only imagine the relief you feel and how much more comforting it is going to be to have him at your side as you make this decision instead of taking it all on yourself and having this huge secret hanging over your head and your relationship. I wish you the best of luck in making the decision that is right for you and your future together.

January 13, 2016 at 11:10 pm #497551

Karemm

Oh I loveeee this man already.
Please keep us posted.

January 20, 2016 at 4:37 am #499292

Melania

I’ll keep him and call him Søren.
:-)

January 20, 2016 at 6:41 am #499317
redcurleysue
I am so glad you are facing this together. Yes, he has big time mixed feelings…and that would be normal. Same for you.

Just keep communicating, honestly communicating. Say what you feel…think long term as much as possible…because whatever decision you make will be there long term.

I agree with him…what you really want is important….no regrets….no regrets whatever you choose together.

Keep us posted…we want to know.

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