Is FWB worth it?

Trying to form a relationship with a man who only wants sex from you is a great way to go nuts.
Invest your energy in a guy who wants to date you. And he is being a good guy, not leading you on. So WALK AWAY.

9/10 really sad women who post here do so because they thought FWB or casual would lead to a relationship, so they slept with the guy.

You can’t do anything to turn this around, because you can’t sex a guy into a relationship. This guy is being clear with you that he only wants sex. At least he’s being honest about what his intentions are.

I would let this one go because you don’t want the same things. Like anon said, invest your time & energy in a guy who wants the same things you do, rather than beating your head against a wall trying to change this guy.

To answer the title, Yes FWB is worth it, if thats what you want. Why do women settle for less, be single, be free find a man that loves you and chases you, period.

It’s not worth it. Hands down.
FWB is an unnatural relationship in which feelings, if they develop, as emotionally healthy people usually have naturally, are to be denied or suppressed or discouraged.
You’re welcome to share your bodies but not your emotions, and you do weird things when the inevitable feelings begin to surface (such as staying away from the other person) but then the desire for him/her drives you back to them so you’re in constant limbo over what is really going on without the freedom to discuss it (remember, we both voluntarily agreed under no duress it’s only FWB).
It’s when one or both people swore they didn’t want a relationship but then somehow fell in love and can’t let go, so all you can do it sit and hope and browse these sites for answers you need but can’t get from the person who possibly has them.
It’s when they come over and you see them and feel good, feel secure, feel happy and then when they are absent you realize you have no right to want to see them much less ask.
Having your self-worth eroded away as you search on google countless times how they couldn’t love you, then ask all your friends the same stupid question, is the travesty called FWB.
Trust me. My “relationship” has been labeled FWB for 8.5 months. It’s the cruelest thing I’ve done to myself, and I can’t let go.
He’s been kind enough to be honest. I’d say cut the friendship loose if you want more. I do believe anything is possible but it’s setting up a painful uphill journey for you.

“The longest I’ve ever had a Buddy (someone 16yrs my junior) was 9 mos.”

Yeah, my experience is that it works best with someone totally out of the realm of something real panning out with. That way when it ends, it’s just what it was vs a rejection. Like my young FWB wants kids, I can’t have kids, we both know there is an end date to our thing and that is that.

If you approach casual or FWB with someone you want a relationship with, it’s going to end when they meet the one, because if you were the one, they’d date you. And if you want to be the one, that is gonna hurt in a really bad way.

I finally just got the guy after 4 months of being FWB.

He was deeply hurt and scared of relationships so was guarded and swore up and down he didn’t want a relationship at the time. He did make it clear he was looking for happiness “eventually.”

I’m going through a complicated divorce (even currently) and also didn’t think I was ready for a relationship. He gave me so many mixed signals I didn’t know what he was thinking. I knew he liked me but started to question whether or not he actually wanted to be with ME. I kind of started thinking he was taking me for granted. We were spending a lot of time together and acting like a real couple, but the label and a lot of the physical affection wasn’t there.

At first it was a booty call. I was kind of okay with that, I hadn’t had sex in two years and was hungry for male attention.

He also hadn’t been with anyone in over a year. It was pure chemical attraction at first.

Until about a month into this I realized this man was worth trying to keep around. He’s an amazing single father and just a very well-rounded individual.

Problem: I didn’t know what he thought about me.

I was trying to figure out how to distance myself from him to see if the space would make him realize he wanted me too. After a lot of thinking and reading this website I realized he was trying to convince himself that he didn’t want a relationship with me, but I just knew that he did.

There were a lot of subtle signs I noticed he made that led me to realize he really did want me around. It’s thanks to this website that I noticed them! He used words like “we” and “let’s.” He made a lot of jokes about me seeing other guys and teased me about it but not in a hurtful way. He made a lot if “if you were my girlfriend, I’d do this…” comments and proceeded to do said action. Once he mentioned that action, he never mentioned it again but kept doing the thing he mentioned. Did that mean he wanted me to be his girlfriend?

Turns out that he did. It turned out that we both were trying to give the other space slowly but surely by not hanging around. The breaking point for him is that he went on a date with a girl and couldn’t stop thinking about me. He felt guilty he was there and wasn’t having a good time. He came to my house on a worknight at 1:30 in the morning and confessed he wanted to be my boyfriend.

FWB can work out but you have to make a real connection on the friend level first. Don’t push the fact that you want something more before he’s ready or he’ll only run away. I definitely wanted a relationship before he did. Follow your gut

Good advice isn’t based on relationship experiences that are outliers.

Oh I was definitely hung up on him and it ate me alive not knowing how he felt. I was giving it my all and receiving nothing in return.

The best thing you could do is actually try to meet up and make a connection. That was my point at the end of my story. Sounds like you haven’t made any connection from his point of view. You met once and haven’t seen each other again but texted for months? WHY are you trying to let him make the first move? If he has no incentive to he won’t. It’s okay for you to be bold every now and then, ask HIM out.

Sounds like OP is actually caught up on him without knowing who he is. You’re caught up in the idea of him. It’s okay it happens. Happened to me too. You just need to fight your feelings for a little while and see where it goes naturally. You can’t push how you feel onto him or he will know that you’re already into him. Don’t show him that you’re willing to do anything and everything for him so soon or he’ll think you’re clingy.

What the heck is sssooo special about this guy that keeps you holding out for something more?
Does his d×ck vibrate?

He has made it clear he only wants FWB. What an insult! You’re good enough to get naked but not create an intimate lasting bond with!? Be a partner in crime? Be the marshmallows to your hot cocoa?

Keep walking it’s not worth risking the heartache.

Be very careful. You’ve now set yourself up as a challenge. It’s possible that he’ll now pursue you with no intent on doing anything but getting you into bed and will disappear as soon as he’s bagged you. There’s also a remote possibility that since you’ve pulled him up for telling you he only wants casual, he could realize that’s not what he wants. It depends on how emotionally available he is. If he’s recently broken up with someone, don’t waste your time.

Your call as to whether you see him or keep communicating. Just know you’re playing with fire and you have to stay in command of yourself and protect your heart. You really have to not give a damn what he does or doesn’t do if you’re going to proceed at all.