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Samantha
I’ve been exclusively dating this guy for 2 months (yesterday) and he didn’t text me to say “happy 2 months” or acknowledged it at all. I did see him on Sunday and said “happy 2 months” and he responded by saying “oh my god is that today?” when it was the next day. I know that simple things like that are not on a guys mind as much as its on a girls but i still think a little recognition is needed even if it is 2 months and not 6 or even a year.
I keep comparing it to his last relationship because he still had pictures up of his ex when we were talking before we started dating and he posted a picture of them together on their 2 month and said that he loved her and we havent even said it to each other yet even though i feel like i do love him. I know that every relationship is different and things dont always move the same way as before but it still bothers me a little bit.
Any advice?
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Raven
Let it go…
Mila.
The reason he didn’t realize it IS BECAUSE it was two months and not a year+. I’m not judging but typically people don’t keep count when it’s so early, especially men. As far as the FB post with his ex, for all you know she could have reminded him that it was their “anniversary” and suggested posting a picture. It’s normal that it bothers you but don’t dwell on this or question whether he cares. You’ll end up creating problems in your head that don’t exist.
hannah
I can honestly say I’ve never marked monthly anniversaries and don’t know anyone who has, so I wouldn’t worry about this. Don’t compare your relationship with the one he had with his ex. That one ended, so it can’t have been that great!
Ashley
Counting a couple months is silly. A guy is not going to remember that. You’re just letting your insecurities get the better of you. Don’t focus on stuff like that & get worried over nothing
Janet
You sound very young. This is a none issue. 2 months is nothing – surely you’re not going to do this EVERY month? That’s ludicrous!
And maybe – his EX is an ex because he’s realised that making a fuss and saying ILY at that early stage is silly – hence he doesn’t want to make the same mistake again…with you!
Calm down and have fun, or you may not get to 3 months!!!Mierin
My ex-classmate is on her 53rd month. (Yes, posts about it every month. Yes, I kinda feel jealous.) On their 55th they’re gonna get engaged.
BUT. Hers is the exception rather than the norm. Most of my friends are all quiet then BAM. Solemnization. Marriage.
Also…have you tried deleting pictures from Facebook? You have to delete it, one by one. No batch deletion. Gets fucking tiring after a while.
And she is an EX for a reason, you know.
Jules
I’m in a relationship and I agree with Ashley.
Two months is nothing when it comes to relationships and hardly anything to celebrate. I almost feel like saying, “happy 2 months” is like saying, “can you believe we’ve made it to two months?”
Samantha, comparing your relationship to that of the one he had with his ex is a recipe for disaster.
Here’s a good example. My boyfriend’s ex LOVED to post updates and check-in on Facebook. If you judged their relationship based on that alone you would think they were incredibly happy together. The truth was they weren’t. He’s said she was a very unhappy person but she liked to portray that she had this incredible life on social media.I believe it’s so much more important and speaks so much more of what two people share in private compared to what they put on social media. People who are really happy don’t have to advertise it to the world, they’re too busy living it.
CalLady
I barely remembered our 1 year anniversary, let alone two months. If anniversaries mean anything to you you’re probably going to have to remind him when you hit the 1 year point. I definitely wouldn’t push it for monthly anniversaries, if it would drive me insane I can imagine most guys would get very tired of it very quickly.
Tallspicy
Any woman who is upset over not marking a second month anniversary is going to be manless very soon. Seriously.
Anon
Counting months is silly. This is a non issue that should be let go asap before it gets made into an issue.
*Disclaimer – This opinion is from someone who does have a man, as that seems to be a very important thing to Lucy when it comes to advice giving, not all men will behave as Lucy’s man does. This does not mean that your man is any less committed or interested or in love than Lucy’s man. The opinions of those who have not yet met a man worth their time, are also just as valid, as having a man does not grant you special powers of advice giving.
Relax and enjoy your relationship. Good day.
Lucy
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Sherri
As per Wikipedia “An anniversary is a day that commemorates or celebrates a past event that occurred on the same date of the YEAR as the initial event.”
Anniversary = Year not month ….
Maria
While quite a few men actually do remember important dates, two months is not one of them. 6 months maybe. Then a year.
Play it cool, just hint at him that you like romantic milestones, they make your heart melt with a warm fuzzy feelings. Also a good excuse for flowers or some other “treat”. Be a little subtle and shrewd about how you nudge your man to give you what you want.
Do not mention anything about his ex for now, it is too early.
Jade
Don’t compare your relationship to his last one. It’s hard but it will only do harm and NO good. I personally don’t think that 2 months deserves much recognition, but if it matters THAT much to you, you may not have many more months together. You need to pick your battles. Guys, or people in general, don’t like being nagged about what many would consider a non-issue. Stop keeping score and just enjoy your relationship.
Sarah
Let it go. You don’t have anniversaries until you’re married. It’s meaningless to celebrate two months, three months, etc. and 99% of men don’t care about this kind of stuff. Doesn’t mean they don’t care about you.
Sun
IMHO, your guy not saying Happy 2 months is not the real issue but the fact that you know that he did that with his ex and not with you and you start to think, “hey, WTF?” Don’t lose sight of reality – he is with you now not her end of story. Have confidence and look forward to creating memories with him with your own signature not what he had with his past girlfriends. Another way this could also be seen is that, so what if he greeted you, it’s just the way he is, he did it with hi ex so he’s just being him. See what I mean? So stop comparing his moments with you with his past but instead, create great ones with him that will make your relationship better.
P_Asohka
Wow, didn’t think people even paid attention to profile pics!!!! Ashley, you must feel so good that someone looks at your photo so detailed lol. Ashley you’re beautiful.
Two months is not long at all. I think you’re expecting too much from him at 2 months. I’ve never heard anything or anyone having an anniversary after two months. After a year yes but not months. Stop worrying about it, it’s not like he forgot your bday or anything! Relax and have continue to enjoy one another.
sk
Can we please let this just die? People do things differently for every person they care about in their lives.
My BF doesn’t celebrate the day, but knows how long we’ve been dating precisely and we are planning on doing something more special on our anniversary. As it should be.
What matters is that his ACTIONS show he cares for you. When he did it in his last relationship it may have been more infatuation but with the OP – it is more real, thus gives it more respect.
We need to stop caring about the little things and overanalyzing. It’s no wonder that men sometimes think that women are crazy! ;)
Dani
My girlfriend forgot our 2 months. And she wants to make it up? I told her I don’t know. What can she do to make it up
Raven
Dump her… She obviously doesn’t care a willy sh!t about You…
Gah!
Lurker
2 month anniversary? Are you 14?
lala
did you not read any of the advice given for the initial post?
Get over it, it means nothing
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