How many reasons do you reveal when you break up

I told you before i think you have some sort of psychological issues and borderline is what comes to my mind because what you have done past month is beyond ‘normal’. First you say you are building this wallflower guy up to your social butterfly style, but then he turns out to be a scrooge and not sexual. But yet you desire a bf so much you keep it going. Then he turns out not prince charming so you break up in the most unnecessary cruel way. There really is nothing wrong with checking if your chemicals in your body are working like they should. If that is not the case, wel then you are just passive agressive cruel and like K said acting like a teenager

In your case it’s not about revealing reasons. It’s about being unnecessarily cruel. It’s fine to break up and say, “I don’t think we’re compatible” or even “My sexual needs just aren’t being met in this relationship”. It’s HOW you say it. From what you wrote you were vicious and immature and you didn’t even break up with him face to face, but you lost your temper and dumped him over Whatsapp. So you clearly need to work on your self control.

You never even liked this guy. You’ve been posting about your dislike for him for weeks. So it seems extra cruel to me to continue dating someone you secretly can’t stand just because you’re afraid of what people will say if you don’t have a boyfriend (which is what you admitted in your other threads). And then to reach a boiling point and dump him by attacking him very personally. All of this shows a lack of character on your part, in my opinion. Sorry but it’s true. Imagine if a guy did all this to one of your female friends (dated her while not really liking her, then viciously dumping her over Whatsapp with a very personal attack about her sexuality)– you’d think he was a total a$$hole wouldn’t you?

I agree with all of you. Just read the las paragraph please. I control the emotions and should have stayed calmer. Blame is totally on me, I do feel guilty, believe me. He just couldn’t get a hint. At first I just said we’re too different, that I had a great time and something great may be we’re not compatible. He was “I’m just rusty at being out, I like going out with you, I was mean to your friend because she didn’t greet me”. I told him it worried me we weren’t progressing sexually and I like feeling close. He didn’t reply to this. So I wrote the last paragraph, the mean one.
Then I got mean because of all the build up. I feel bad but also relieved.
Because you know what? This guy already was checking on me if I’m telling the truth ie I’m back home – so see took pictures from outside the apartment to show “how beautiful view I have”. To show me that he sees when I’m out and when I’m in. He wanted to spend every day together, didn’t want me to meet with my bff. I told him I was going back home and had to catch the train, didn’t tell him which exactly which. He assumed (correctly) that the one at 5 pm and I wasn’t (yet) there. Can you understand that it creeped me out?

I read your last paragraph again. Take some ownership in your actions.

As for what I tell someone when I break up with someone I haven’t been in a long term relationship with — I have had to do it a few times: I certainly don’t take it as an opportunity to unleash all the negative things I WANT to say. That doesn’t help — get a therapist or a best friend to vent to. I tell them that I’m really sorry to have to say it, but that I don’t think we are a good match. I wish them luck in finding someone special. Then I end the call or end the meet up as quick as I can. Lingering only leaves the opportunity to get into a rabbit hole of he said/she said. Me telling them why I don’t like them is irrelevant to their lives and wellbeing. I make a point to leave them as intact as I can.

You didn’t date this guy long term, it wasn’t years of a relationship — this was a few months at most, correct? What right do you have to cut him down? You date to find compatible folks. He wasn’t compatible, it wasn’t a match. Move the f**k on and **carry yourself with some grace.** Stop posting all these things that you think make your point. This isn’t court. And it doesn’t matter. He could be the best guy in the world but if you don’t think it’s going to work, then it’s not going to work.

I would even be wary of being your friend at this point. You go from zero to annihilation and it’s a bit scary.