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John
Hello there,
I’m a 33 to Biomedicine engineer by profession and currently doing my Master’s program here in Finland. I have just moved into Helsinki (Finland’s capital) so I decided to see one friend I knew from my university but had lost his contact. So, I went to his apartment hoping I find him there but found out that he has moved out from there sometime ago.
While, I was there thinking what to do next, looking down on the street I saw this girl coming out of somewhere. She was amazing. And the moment I saw her, I had decided that I wana talk to her. I was on the 2nd floor and by the time I came down she already went inside her apartment. Now, these are student apartments and I know she too is a student. She lives alone because there is only one name on the door & this is all I know about her.
Now, my question is how do I reach her? It’s been over a month since I first saw her and just can’t forget her. I know this will sound very crazy but my own thoughts are either I should write her a [short] letter telling her about myself and asking her to go out for coffee etc or then just knock on her door and introduce myself to her. I know as I said earlier both are crazy and probably stupid ideas & some of you might think I’m some super crazy guy but I’m not. Letters used to be common thing before phones came into being but please tell me what else I can do in order to reach her?
Thank you for your time and I hope to hear from all of you soon.
Regards,
Johnmama
Don’t knock on her door that is REALLY creepy. Actually writing her a note might be kind of creepy too because it means you stalked her to find out where she lives. Respect her home place and personal space.
If she is a student, hang out in a public space where students like to gather and just hope you run into her again. Otherwise I’d just leave it and move on.
Liz Lemon
I agree with mama. It would be frightening, honestly, to get a random note from a stranger who had seen me on the street– it would feel like stalking. And knocking on the door would be even worse. Don’t believe what you see in rom-com movies and TV shows! Women do not find it attractive when a random guy she’s never even spoken to asks her out.
To be fair, you know nothing about this woman. All you know is that you like the way she looks. It may be that you don’t click in person at all. So don’t build her up in your head or project too much on her– that’s unhealthy. You know nothing about her except that she’s pretty.
I agree with Mama that your best option is to hope you run into her at a student event or bar. That would be the most natural thing. Again, don’t overthink it or build her up in your head because if you do talk to her, your expectations won’t match reality and you’ll be disappointed.
mama
@Liz,
I didn’t want to go to there, I was just trying to keep it on topic, but I hope the OP reads your post. Good points. -
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