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January 24, 2020 at 9:29 pm #783653
I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and things have gotten very comfortable. We’re still very much in love with each other but with the day to day running of things, I feel like the romance and flirting has died out. I don’t think he feels the same way though and I’m afraid to ask him. How can I get my boyfriend to engage in more flirtation and romantic endevours without coming across as demanding or high maintenance?January 25, 2020 at 7:11 am #783658
You communicate it to him no differently than you communicate any other problems or issues that arise within a relationship. I would say something like, “I’m starting to feel like we are an old couple. I’m missing some of the romance and passion we used to enjoy and want to whoop it up again with you again.” Make it light and playful not that you’re unhappy with him and the relationship or he’s doing anything wrong.
I find that a man will be romantic if you keep appreciating him for what he does and showing him how happy it makes you when he does it which can be a big kiss, a big smile, a hug or all three that has a big impact on their ego lol. By doing this it gives him the incentive to keep doing it as long as he sees there’s a benefit for doing so. Both men and women have a tendency to fall in a rut where it starts to become mundane and no longer see the romantic gesture or value in it like you did in the beginning when everything was fun and new. I’m doing the necessary work it takes to not fall back into that rut like I did in my previous marriage. By creating a romantic environment and continually showing how happy it makes me when we he does something for me and we do something together, he keeps wanting to do it. If you set up the right dynamic, and maintain that dynamic, it helps to stave off the boredom. We’ve been together over three years and we still act like we are on a honeymoon :o)January 25, 2020 at 8:38 am #783662
Why are you afraid to ask him?January 25, 2020 at 4:48 pm #783678
Buy some sexy underwear and take him out for drinks. Tell him during the evening you do not have panties on as you stare at him. You will see some passion fast. There are books of sex signals you can buy for ideas – this is just one.February 10, 2020 at 9:23 am #784994
I don’t think he feels the same way though and I’m afraid to ask him.February 10, 2020 at 9:28 am #784996
Then you will continue to have a sucky relationship if you stay in your rut.