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    P

    My ex boyfriend (broke up in jan went out for 6 months ) sister has suddenly passed away (70s) I came across a post about in on Instagram. Do I send my condolences? I’m
    Absolutely devastated for him. Or do I just leave it be? Not sure if I’m just going to cause more upset. He didn’t take breaking up well at the time.

    #868080 Reply

    Ewa

    don’t contact him especially if you were the one who broke up with him.
    if you don’t follow him on insta that would be even weirder, stalker like
    even if you do follow him do nothing

    #868083 Reply

    Liz Lemon

    I agree with Ewa. If you are not on speaking terms, and especially if you were the one who ended it with him, just leave him alone. You said he didn’t take breaking up well. Don’t open that wound. You won’t be any comfort to him. You’re an ex, and you’re not friends from the sound of it, so just let him be.

    #868084 Reply

    Tallspicy

    I suggest you leave it (especially if you needed to be creeping on Instagram to know that), but if you must – send a brief text:

    Bob, I just saw that your sister passed, and I wanted to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. Sending you and your family my condolences.

    The key is to let him know you are thinking of him, but not to engage or ask for engagement. That includes, “let me know if you need anything”.

    However, if you don’t follow each other, you should not be looking at his Instagram, so you should not know this information.

    #868085 Reply

    P

    I don’t stalk or folllow his Instagram, he had always blocked me on and off. Im not into trying to see an ex’s account…We are in a creative community so we all have open to the public accounts. Another artist made a post as a tribute. It’s a shock as it was so sudden and happens several days ago.

    Part of his upset was after we broke up he wanted to be friends and I said that it was too soon and said no.

    I was just going to offer my Condolences and not ask any questions or any need to respond. I just wanted to let him know he was in my thoughts and I’m so sorry to hear the news.

    #868088 Reply

    P

    I appreciate your views.

    #868098 Reply

    Miss_A

    My ex reached out to me when my Mom died. He had broken up with me, hurting me tremendously, but I still appreciated his condolences. We didn’t work as a couple, but he still cared. We are all human. Do what feels right to you.

    #868434 Reply

    Erin

    What Tallspicy said on reaching out with a brief text where you address the loss and give condolences.

    No ‘If you just wanna talk I’m there” or “Let me know if you need anything” or calling just to hear how he feels about what happened.

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