Epic break of no contact. Feel awful.

Meh don’t worry too much about it. It happens. I doubt this will put you back at square one, nor will this be as bad as the first time around. I’m sure it hurt to hear about his situation but i bet you won’t even think about it in a few days/weeks time. Just keep moving forward…..just make sure you delete his number, keep him on blocked and don’t contact him again.

I highly doubt it will be hard to move on from this. The first time around you were heartbroken. Now it’s more so a matter of going out on a limb and being disappointed from how ever you expected him to respond. Maybe your ego is bruised too i.e. losing face. Or it hurt further having your feelings kind of ignored/minimized. Hard to be certain from your info, but I get the vibe his email may have been those petty power plays… you know when people try and “win the breakup”

We all learn this lesson the hard way that it’s a gamble to depend on an ex for closure, and sometimes no matter the response, closure still doesn’t come. And so you have to learn to muster it yourself. Can be a big pill to swallow

But take pride in sending that email. It was risky byt brave, and you were getting yours so kudos. Even if you feel like crap now, when you’ve done/said all you wanted to, there’s an inherent aspect of closure to that. And you’ll be past this before you know it

How long were you together OP?

To answer your question, I just think this is because this has brought back all the memories (and that’s all they are) of when you first broke up. It’s a slight re-opening of an old wound which has resulted in a TEMPORARY return of all your old feelings etc. Don’t worry these will pass fairly quickly as long as you don’t dwell on things too long. Get busy and in a week, it will all practically be forgotten about. Good luck.

*I also put him on a pedestal but his insensitive email all about his new wonderful life has in some ways helped me see that he is not all that*

Definitely yes. I meant to comment on way he appeared to be wiping your nose in it by giving details of his new life. Highly insensitive, as you say, given you had told him how hurt you were in your own email. What were the circumstances of the break-up?

In addition to the re-opening of old wounds, you’re also dealing with this new information. Something else to bear in mind.

Don’t worry too much about how you feel right now. I can partially identify although the circumstances are a bit different. I broke up with someone one once because I believed, due to the timing and where I was in my life etc, I’d get hurt if things continued! He appeared to take it graciously. A year later I heard through a friend of his he was very upset about it all-something which completely bowled me over at the time! I was surprised at how it bothered me at the time. Like you I hadn’t met anyone else I was interested in.

I have a samsung phone and having never blocked anyone before I just assumed the messages never got to the phone. However, it seems that the phone stores them but under ‘blocked messages’so all you have to do is open that and there they all are. He had been talking to himself for over a year!