Dysfunctional relationship?

I have previously lived in an abusive relationship but divorced after I realized it was dysfunctional. After a few years as a single, I met a new man whom I fell in love with very much. He behaved where it was that he was in love with me men when I asked he said he was not what men wanted to give it time and see if the feelings would come. He had previously been a “diver” in women. He had not had this after portraying. He has lived 20 years with a woman who has never been in love and did not really want to be in the relationship of men she threatened with suicide when he tried to leave. That’s his picture anyway. But the story changes a bit depending on when I ask. He has always expressed that he does not know if he can be in love with a relationship he has not previously experienced. We were together for a year and he became more in love with me men not “clockwise” dear he said to me. He was also hesitant for periods but it was because I pressed him he said. He made smooth every time we quarreled men we always got back together when we had stopped. He still had contact with women he had been in love with before men no longer had feelings for them, but they were changing important “friends” to write with according to him. In the end, I got enough of his ambiguity and lack of emotion. We could never plan ahead for more than a month for him to see if we would not be together. We had no contact for 6 months but then he heard from me and was in love with me, had the best for me and could now give me what I need in the relationship, according to him. I agreed to give it another chance again it was so powerful in our relationship that was also good. So we try again. What I wonder now is if I have gotten into a dysfunctional relationship again? Now the feelings are there for him men he does not want to change plan and future together, wants to give it more time and answers just hovering when I ask if we should move together later. Feel free to apologize for why it will be difficult. He has been a cohabiting partner for 20 years but does not want to be there again. It’s also ok not to want. Men he also has a strange relationship with his ex. He describes her as manipulative, controlling, guilt-ridden, mean, and selfish, but recently he said that she is a warm person and that they had a warm relationship. He once said to me ”maybe I should have given her a second chance? No, now we have made the decition to separate so we should stick to this”. Then he and I had been a couple for three months. And they separated 7 years ago. What do you think, is this relationship dysfunctional? Is he still not over his ex? He was never in love with her and always wanted to leave because he was not happy with her.