Do you think this is weird? What is going on?

But why did he flirt with me after putting me in friendzone? Is he trying to play with me?
omg this is embarrassing.. im gonna cry.. I find this mean..

Well.. there were some flirts where I would think its more than friendly or maybe I read it wrong.
For example we were talking about our waistlines and I said ‘oh i dont know how big mine is I need to measure it’, and he replied with ‘oh well I can do that 👀’
Or would continue calling me ‘babe’ and stuff like ‘come here babe’ and idk.. or is this friendly?

Okay, thank you sir..
Will try my best.. I do feel dumb, if I didnt reject him I would be in a relationship now.. maybe the relationship would be great.. oh well..

Thank you sir, I will try. Bless you

Honestly I dont know how that would feel.
I mean the reason why I thought it was okay to go back is because I told him the truth of why I can’t be emotionally invested in him at that time. And go back to him when I was sure I wanted to try out with him and have something longterm.
I feel like no one is anyone’s first. Guys who showed interest in me had relationships before me so idk..
or maybe i dont understand you correctly.

Okay, well thanks to you as well for your input. Hopefully someone else will come along someday

Honey, you seem really needy and not confident at all. Next time you say… I am seeing someone else, but if it does not work out, I would love a rain check. And then if you break up, you just say, I’d love to try that date out. Your whole text about if he is interested or not was really over the top asking him to validate you. I suggest you work on loving yourself before worrying about men.

Hey pls dont beat urslf up. When he askd you, you were into another guy. Now when that dint work out, you want to go back to the same old guy u said no to. This time he said no. But he was nice abt it and frnd zoned you. This chapter is over. Just put him behind you and move on..

it happens. Even i wldnt like to date a guy who said no to me bec he was into anthr girl. And came back to me once that dint work out! Who wants to feel that they are 2nd best??

Another thing. For future. Pls know that till you meet a guy in person, its unreal. The first guy was just someone you met online and not in person! That was just a virtual thing. Dont get too invested in smone you hv never met!

Please read up on anxious attachment. I think it will help you! Hugs!

@Raven,

He was from a different country far away. We knew eachother through a mutual interest (making music). We started talking everyday. I noticed he was eager to talk to me everyday. When conversation would die off because I had to sleep, the next day I see a text from him popup ‘Hey, how are you? :)’. At first I didn’t like him romantically and was little scared that he seemed so interested to talk but it grew the more I talked to him and I got attached. He said I looked beautiful and I’m a nice girl , he said feels calm when he talks to me. Every evening we talked for hours, sending voice memos. We talked for about 2 months almost everyday. Sometimes for a day we wouldnt talk, I would go online and he saw it and he would instantly text me, and we would talk about random stuff. I started imagining my life with him and he even sent a video of him partying with friends. Or during work he would text me as well,. I was hoping it would progress someday. I thought he liked me romantically.

Then one day on social media I saw a new video of him holding hands with a girl.. they were in a park having fun.. driving together in the car. And that continued multiple days.

That day he started being less interested in me and finding ways to end conversation, and he never spoke to me again. It broke my heart. But I dont think about him anymore, I felt led on.

Now I think about the guy at school, even though I shouldnt anymore because he friendzoned me and im too afraid to initiate contact with him anyways. On the other hand he did say ‘he cant date at the moment’ so thats the reason why I was waiting for so long and hoped. Or maybe it was just to let me down gently..

I just never seem to win in my love life..
I had an online relationship before all this for 3 years. This was my first ever relationship, I never dated anyone in real life.
He ghosted me 6 times in a row and got with a single mother behind my back. I could never meet him even though he was so eager and saying stuff like he wanted to marry me and meet me. When the opportunity arose to meet he blocked me. Then unblock and find ways to contact again. I blocked him last time, its over forever, i couldnt deal with it anymore.

@Raven, thanks a lot for caring and understanding. I have thought of therapy but I was never sure if I truly needed it and if my internal problems were that big of a deal. I always tried to brush them off. But yeah when economic recession is decreasing I will try to find a good therapist. Because no matter how hard I try, I can’t raise my own self confidence for some reason.

When I have success with it I will post here again in this thread. Thanks everyone a lot for the advice