Dating an introvert

Why you doing this ? Hes as dull as dishwater and youre bored after only 3 mnths. There are others out there you know. x

Is he on the spectrum by chance?

Being an introvert is fine…nothing wrong with it

But I think he has other issues going on. He sounds socially inept

What does he like…?

I have no idea why I’m still with him, originally, his politeness attracts me and he is very softspoken. I am loud and extremely outgoing, I thought I could use someone like him to balance me out a little bit. However, the more I know him, the more I think that there is no way that I can be happy with someone who is totally opposite of me. He is highly educated and has a decent job, no bad habits and very honest. On paper, he is a perfect guy, but he is very quiet and can’t start a conversation unless you ask him a direct question. Sometimes I feel that I was talking to myself while trying to tell him something. Aren’t your partner supposed to be your best friend? I am not sure if we are even friends because we can’t communicate at all.

He does sound interested – whether he’s an introvert or not.
That’s just the plain truth of it. Stop texting. See what happens.

Thanks, everyone! I have stopped texting him and just let it be. We are on schedule for another date, I may just cancel it to save myself some time. As an extrovert, I do have a good amount of energy and I don’t mind to be the organizer of the relationship, however, the feeling of unequal contribution to the relationship is something that I cannot accept. There is only so much “deep conversations” that I have with a person, doing things together is a form of bonding and if he doesn’t get that then what is the point of continuing this relationship?

he sounds like a self absorbed a**hole trying to pass himself off as an introvert. You can do better!!

Yeah he doesnt sound like an introvert to me, but extremely passive and not a lot seems to exite him. If you cant handle it, its like dragging a dead horse

Sounds EXACTLY like my boyfriend. Does not initiate conversation, I do all the planning. He seems lukewarm, yet he’s great when we are spending time together. Maybe we’re seeing the same guy LOL. Does his name start with a B?

Alexis, no we are not seeing the same guy, that I can promise. You wouldn’t last with his communication skills!

Jen, he works the night shift so he sleeps during the day. Never married, so no kids, he is nerdy and just super zen. Like I said, he is just a strange person, honest, but strange. Sometimes I was wondering why these people even engage in dating as they seem to be doing fine with their introverted lifestyle. My friends think that I am picky and he seems to be a great guy to them. However, if I marry him, I can see myself living in a very lonely life since he doesn’t seem to be interested in anything! His life is work, gym, and home……he doesn’t like to travel or hangout with friends or even just take a walk with me (unless I pull his teeth out).

When we plan to go out for dinner, he just tell me to pick the restaurant, at the restaurant he asks me what to order! He would put meat into by plate without asking for my permission. If I tried to do small talk like “how was work today?” he would just smiles and says “fine” until I bring up something like “why do you think people love money and power?” then he would go on and on and on for hours on his theories about human beings. OMG, what the heck did I get myself into? ZERO romantic, no normal conversations, he doesn’t talk about future or past or even present. Maybe he is a robot?

Raven, if that is the case then I am a horrible person. Autism is beyond someone’s control, so I can’t just dump him because of his disability. How can I be sure that he has autism?