Crippling shyness means romance never gets off the ground

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November 26, 2021 at 6:57 am #929625 Reply

Allegra

I used to be really very shy. I have mostly gotten over it, except that I am extremely shy when I like someone!!! So, if someone starts to flirt with me, I usually won’t be sure (it’s usually a bit unclear anyway). Since I don’t have “proof” that they like me, I’m too shy to flirt back!

I hold back a lot so what happens is usually the guy will think I’m not interested or not think we have chemistry and then they stop flirting–before I had a chance to flirt back, you know? (People don’t usually continue flirting with you without some encouragement, you know?)

How can I develop more confidence and learn to flirt even when the situation (their interest, intentions, etc.) is unclear?

November 26, 2021 at 1:21 pm #929632 Reply

Raven

Well… You have to at least (learn to) respond.

Do you have someone to practice with?
There are some articles on this site that might help…

November 27, 2021 at 11:50 am #929665 Reply

Lane

I’m sure there are some books on flirting that could help you out. I would at least learn a few techniques, that you’re the most comfortable with, then try it out on some friends to see how its conveyed before actually using it. Like they say “practice makes perfect” or “If you try and don’t succeed, try try again.” :o)

November 28, 2021 at 8:55 pm #929713 Reply

Dex

I feel like text messaging (whichever app you use, there’s zillions) could be your best friend, but I’m guessing maybe it’s even too difficult to exchange info? Is that the case?

I’ve just def totally started relationships that way and I know many others have
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