Better honest than living in a dream world

So I’ve posted before. I’m 29 and have a close group of friends. But I notice as we grow older we grow further apart and that hurts me. Some of them are married, getting married, moving, children, and its a sad reality.

But what I find frustrating is that I am purely honest. I’d hope my best friends would be real with me. I feel I wouldn’t be a good friend if I wasn’t honest. I trust my friends opinions.

An example, a girl friend will call me crying that her live in boyfriend ditched her for his friends, never came home, and was out partying. I told her the truth that he sounds immature and she deserves better. This isn’t the first time she’s called with something like this. She’ll call crying that he can’t pay his half of the rent. I warned her not to move in with him since he was jobless at the time, but she insisted he said he could pay. So when she tells me this, I tell her that maybe she should get her own place without him of which she can afford and he needs to get his finances together. She gets offended that how dare I bring up her moving from him and how he’s fantastic and she loves him. Mr. Fantastic can’t pay the rent, goes out without you, and doesn’t want to get up to walk their dog because he wants to sleep. He’s immature and needs to get his stuff together. I tell her the truth. I’m her friend, not his. She makes excuses for him and then acts offended that how dare I actually speak the truth.

I have another girlfriend whose boyfriend barely works, got a degree to be an electrician guy, but doesn’t do that career and settles for something easier. Now they can’t buy a house because he barely has any credit. I’m honest and tell her that maybe he should get a legitimate on the books job and as a 30 year old man should have done this years ago.

Another friend has a fiance who hasn’t introduced her to his family, who is local and makes lots of excuses for it. I tell my girl friend thr truth that she should insist on meeting them before the wedding. I am honest with my friend. Her fiance is keeping them a part for bogus reasons.

My friend again acts offended like I am attacking him, when I’m simply speaking the truth in a factual way.

Now what I notice is they all support and boost each other up. Like everything is rainbows and puppies. And I look like the realistic bitch. I’m realistic, mature, and honest because I care for my friends. I’m sorry I’m not going to say its great that my friend is crying over her boyfriend not coming home. The rest of the girls just tell her that he loves her and he doesn’t mean it and she should have a talk with him and he probably didn’t realize. Thats bogus.

I’m not going to say that not meeting the family of your fiance is okay. They aren’t bad people and his reasons are really dumb. I told my friend today that she should push to meet them before the wedding. She takes it wrong. The other girls go in saying “oh no there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure he wants you to meet them”

He doesn’t. He hasn’t. Actions speak louder than words.

They feed each other rainbows and puppies. I speak reality.

Am I wrong here? They make me feel like the judgmental friend, when truly I’m using facts they tell me to make valid points they refuse to acknowledge. I’ve found myself lately trying to feed them rainbows just to appease them, but I feel I am not being myself and being a bad friend overall.