6weeks dating should i ask him where i stand?

Have you already discussed generally what you want from dating? Did you discuss what you want before you got physical and that getting physical meant something to you?

If not, next time… by date 3-4, you should be generally discussing what you want from dating. Not from
One another but from relationships. If he is not open to something serious or is living day to day in the moment, do not proceed.

If you got physical without explaining you only get physical with being exclusive and getting off of online, it is now too late. You do that before sex.

So, in general, you should already know where you stand, but based on your question, I am guessing you took the cool girl route. Which never works. He should know early you want something committed and you only get physical with men who are not on match the next day. And do not have unprotected sex until you are exclusive.

If you have not done these steps yet, then I suggest you ask what he is looking for generally and suggest you ask if he is still seeing other people before you ask anything else. Explain that from a health standpoint, you want to know. If the answer is yes, he does not see it going very far. Men who want to be boyfriends generally lock it down by 4-6 weeks, 8-12 latest.

It is never to early to have boundaries about what you want. If you want a relationship and to not have men sleeping with others, you need to say early, I do not sleep with men.who are sleeping and dating others, but before you sleep together. It is too late now.

Is he acting like he wants to be your boyfriend? Is he consistent in making plans? Is he escalating your time together? Does he call you to say hi? Does he lock down the next date? Does he say he wants only you?

Option a: say nothing

Option b: ask where he is on seeing others and listen carefully

Option c: tell him you are going to stop dating others to focus on him, where is he at?

Ames,

The issue is that she already slept with him (if I read intimate as sleeping with). Now it is an actual health issue – hence the reason to ask. There is another approach which would be that you sleep with him protected, and if he wants to stop that, then you ask.

Evan mark katz would say any longer than 8 weeks without commitment would be a man you should stop dating because men who are into you, lock it down fast. usually in the 4-8 week category.

If you don’t know where you stand, you usually are standing on shaky ground. If you have a habit of bad choices in men, you should run away from this guy… you liking him is your attachment system, not that he is a good match. Setting too men against each other is a bad idea. Please do not be a woman who chooses the wrong guy when you had a good one. The good one will look more alluring when you allow this one to treat you badly.

It will suffocate him …let him show you whether or not he locks you down…if not, nit probably isn’t going to happen. Respect yourself… it’s so attractive.

I would add to T’s comments don’t PLAY the “fun, carefree girl”… that has to be real. When you put on the breezy cool girl ACT, guys feel it and spot it 100 miles away and they know something’s off, you’re trying too hard to snare them, and they run the other way. It’s about valuing yourself enough that you don’t make yourself a doormat for him to wipe his feet on. Not attractive. Guys don’t like a total “yes” woman who has no boundaries. They lose respect.