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Eliza
So make the long story short, I met this guy through a mutual friend. Whenever we were together we would always talk and he was always so flirty, and clearly interested in me and I was interested in him. He finally asked for my number and of course I gave it to him. We have been texting non-stop for 2 weeks. Flirtatious texts were sent on his end and my end. So, the other day I was mindlessly walking through Target and who do I see? HIM! with another girl…who was caressing his back and just touching him. I couldn’t believe my eyes, and before I had the opportunity to turn around he sees me. The look on his face was indescribable, it was an in between of “oh shit” and “what the hell do i do?” I feel awful, I have no idea if that girl he was with was his girlfriend. He never mentioned that he had one. He never implied that he had one because he was always so flirtatious. He gave me a hug and introduced me to her. He simply introduced her by her name, but did not address her as “my friend” or “my girlfriend”. After we spoke, we said our goodbyes. They went on their way and I went on mine. I was and am still completely stunned. I don’t know what to think. I feel disappointed, hurt, but also angry. This situation has never happened to me before. I little advice may be helpful. Also, he has not texted me since I saw him. I’m sure so many more thoughts are running through his head than mine.
Taivas
First things first – this guy is not your boyfriend. He does not owe you exclusivity and you should not get angry about it despite him being flirtatious.
If you suspect that girl to be his girlfriend, then ask him straightforward .diane
under your anger… but you know what, you are better off than that girl…. don’t you agree?
Sherri
I would mention that girl to ur mutual friend so that that friend knows and doesn’t introduce him to other “mutual” friends.
But then U guys weren’t even dating. Just texting. That is a text buddy or pen pal relationship.
diane
Call me old school, but I have low tolerance for this kind of stuff…. I won’t want the guy I am with to flirt with another girl….
maybe you don’t have the right to be angry as you are not even dating, but I would definitely cut any connection here…..You don’t want a guy like that……
Ali
Yeaaa this is shady! Id ask the mutual friend and id ask him too. But I guess it’s what you’re cool with as far as him possibly dating multiple people
eliza
Thanks girls..yeah I should have cleared up the part when I said I was angry. I am kinda angry at myself…I guess I feel that way because i would absolutely HATE to be that girl that could potentially ruin their relationship. You know what I mean? I don’t want to ever be that girl that he would cheat on his girlfriend with
LAgirl
You don’t know she is his GF. You are making way too many assumptions.
All you know is that he flirted with you on text. He did not ask you out on any dates. This means he liked your attention, but made no move to spend time with you.
This is what I call ‘text dating’… women seem to think that if a man texts her alot he is really into her. Texting is NOT dating. It is a way to pass the time.
A man who is really interested in you would be taking you to Target, and not just loading you up on false words.
Don’t get so invested in a man that you have not even been on a date with.
Lane
Here’s your problem, while you were wasting your tim texting a guy, this girl was spending time with him.
A) stop attaching yourself to men you don’t spend actual time with (your phone is a BARRIER not a connection to real men);
B) always assume a man is seeing other women, especially if you aren’t even dating (she was dating, you were not);
C). Stop flirting with men you have never met and don’t know at all;
D). Start spending time with men in real life with a bulk of your commutation taking place on dates, not your darn phone—-only give attention to those who ask you out a lot (time and money = investment); and
E) don’t stop meeting and getting to know men until your IN an actual relationship!
Dating 101 guideline.
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