My Italian boyfriend doesn't text me a lot, but keep saying I like you a lot.

How do you expect to have a relationship over text?

when a guy hides you on facebook, it’s because you’re not the only woman he’s talking to. the fact his status is “single” on there too, is showing you even more than he is keeping his options open. I’m sorry to say this but honestly I think he’s living his own life. it’s good that his family & friends know about you, but the fact he isn’t showing you off speaks volumes. he is keeping his options open for other girls by making it appear to the public that he doesn’t have a girlfriend. I have never seen an instance where this isn’t true. I’ve had it happen to me too. I understand how badly you want to talk to him, but I can tell he is perceiving it as needy. I completely understand your frustrations, but if nothing is changing you need to end it. this is not what you want in a relationship so I think you need to date someone who is near you. This situation does not seem realistic.

Although this question was 7 months ago I’d still like to answer (possibly for others who have the same issue in the future).

I can totally relate to this and it’s an extremely “Italian” thing to do.

The problems stem from culture and first and foremost both parties have to be aware of that. I met my Italian boyfriend while living in Italy, and when I returned to my home country, a similar thing occurred. We remained in a long-distance relationship, and he sucks at texting – especially when he’s out with friends (which is 99% of the time).

In my experience, friends and family are at the top of the list for most Italians. I would even say that friends are more of a priority to them than new girlfriends (sometimes). The thing which I found it impossible to deal with was that I had a very open mind, knowing that he conducts his life in a different way to me, but that he ignorantly refused to understand and be aware of the fact that I also conduct my life (and relationships) differently. While I sacrificed a lot of the things I would normally (or would not normally) do in a relationship, he did not. And you cannot have a relationship without compromise.

The facebook/social media thing is normal. Same thing with me. He completely ignores me on facebook (even now when we are back living together)and says he prefers not to have his personal info published on the internet. There is not even one picture of us on his fb. Some people are like this – and it does not necessarily mean that he is seeing other girls. Italians are superstitious – my boyfriend says he doesn’t like posting things about his relationship because he thinks it will bring bad luck. You also need to remember that social media does not dictate the quality or the existence of your relationship. You said that his friends and family already know that you are together – so what else matters?

Interracial relationships are very hard sometimes – especially without COMPROMISE! And if he is never willing to compromise for you, then the relationship is not worth it, because you simply don’t mean enough to him for him to make a change to keep the relationship going.

Ican relate to some of these problem i met an Italian guy on FB 3 years ago we got real close over the years we skyped only 3 times so I know he is real he text everyday we exchange a lot of passionate texts I just have this feeling we like each a lot but one big problem we never talked on the phone I asked him why but he always making up excuses i suspect his English is not so good and he don,t want to feel a shame i told him its ok I will understand if its not he will sometimes tape a message and then send it to me but i want to hear him live he seems to be a nice guy he keep begging me to come to Italy so we can meet and hangout but i,m afraid to go there because I still don,t know him enough about him I like him a lot one daY I broke off the friendship he begged and told me he love me and he wish i was with him in italy i don,t know what to do its sometimes very sad for me

Sorry i typed wrong, i mean:” Until one day i just cannot be interested in other guys anymore, usually my brain tells me not to be interested in other guys out of self respect and dignity…but then now it comes to me naturally and effortless. That i just cannot be interested in other guys…”

i will add that he’s older, im younger…. color doesn’t matter, but he’s “white” im “black”.

He’s always available to me – morning, noon, night. he’s very open and honest with me. i like him.

I have once dated an italian man. He’s handsome talks a lot, talks about the culture hes family work etc. Also the girls he dated before but hes not interested with.

After that he return to italy still we continue to talked. but he message me that he’s not interested me as a partner..but a good friend maybe.. I like him,, i always text him every morning every might,, he reply? Yes! Sometimes no .. He never started the conversation..im always one who started.. Im still hoping that he’s feelings will change..but idk fingers cross.. Im thinking that im one of the “one”who dated him but not interested..is that italian man do that? Should i continie texting him? Sometimes we talked a lot sometimes hes not interested.. Im very confuse right now..someone help me please.. Thanks

don’t chase him. hes told you clearly hes not interested. why are you not believing him? besides this is long distance. forget him. and start dating locally.