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Emily.
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Dee
He has no fb, linked in, my space – nothing. No photo on his dating profile where we met. Google search on his name comes up with zippo.
Guy is shy not a talker but very sweet. He doesn’t like it when I take his photo either. He is ordinary looking but not ugly by any means.
Should this be a red flag?
Raven
How long have you 2 been together?
Raven
Google search his pix …
A.
It’s fine he doesn’t have social media, but his name should come up with you google it. If it’s not, it’s because he’s not using his real name and that’s not a red flag, it means you should dump him immediately, no further questions asked.
NA
It’s ok to not have a social presence. I have made sure I am not visible on google search either but make sure you are included in his life, have met his friends/family and have been to his house. I once dated a man for 3 whole months who had no social presence except for LinkedIn. He never introduced me to anyone and I never was invited over to his house. Guess what he was married :)
Just be caution.Kathy
For $3.99 you can Intelius anyone.. Tells the addresses where they have lived, their birthday, sometimes where they work and a list of relatives. You can get lots of info from that(especially the relative part). I have done it many, many times..
Shannon
I don’t think so. I know of other men that do not have a social media presence…they’re just not into it. They have the philosophy that they’d rather be out doing stuff then surfing the web on their computer. Unless that’s a deal breaker to you, it’s not a red flag. But different people want different things and for me personally, I couldn’t date someone that wasn’t internet savvy. Having a social media presence is one thing, but I went out with a couple of guys that still had flip top phones and as soon as I saw that I thought, “Oh, nope. This isn’t happening.” Some people may feel that is shallow, and they’re welcome to guys like that, but I feel I wouldn’t have much in common with them.
Livvi
The fact that my BF has no social media, is honestly one of my favorite qualities. I allow him open access to mine if he wants to look, but it’s just a whole entire category of drama we’ll never have to deal with!
Hannah
have you been to his home, do you know his friends and family, where he works etc? If so, don’t worry. If not, a major red flag!
Some people don’t like social media, others don’t use it due to having a high profile job etc. As long as you are 100% sure he is who he says he is, I wouldn’t worry.
Any doubts, ask to see his driver’s licence. He may find it a weird request but who cares? Better to be sure than deceived and if he has any sense, he’ll understand that.
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I don’t have any social media accounts too..
I’m a very private person & low profile.Why? Not my thing because I don’t compare myself to anyone and I want to be different.
You should try to get to know someone without social media.
Kim
I don’t think it’s a red flag for someone to not be on social media. Social media is not the be all and end all. Unfortunately to many young people these days place so much emphasis on it in a relationship. Our parents and grandparents generation didn’t have social media. How did they get by? They communicated in person because that’s all they had.
My sister’s fiancé doesn’t have a social media presence either because he doesn’t like everyone to see what he’s up to all the time. He’s a very private person and would prefer to not plaster everything he’s doing on Facebook etc. There’s so much trivial arguing etc that goes on on Facebook maybe he’s right.
If this guy has introduced you to people and made you feel included in his real life I wouldn’t worry about the social media.
Emily
Kim, the original post is from 2016.
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