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The focal point of the story is how he covers the camera when you’re away.
And if I was in your position, it would raise questions.
But I have to ask: How did we get here?
I mean, traveling is meaningful enough to you that you travel independently.
He covers the camera on the front door (which essentially monitors his actions) and you threaten him with divorce if you don’t get to spy on him while you’re away.
And look, I’m not saying it wouldn’t raise concerns, but he actually is accurate when he says he doesn’t get to watch your comings and goings while on vacation, so why should he be subject to that?
You want to travel, so you do.
He wants to cover the doorbell camera, and by some rule of yours, that’s not OK… it’s so “not OK” that you threaten to divorce him while you go on vacations without him because you want to.
Something is wrong here in the partnership.
Maybe he is doing something shady. He might be.
But there’s definitely more to the story if the bullets are:
– wife goes on vacations without husband because she wants to
– husband covers doorbell camera when she’s away
– wife threatens divorce if he doesn’t stop doing that for the next times she does what she wants without limitationI mean, I would be uncomfortable if I was married and my wife was going on vacation by herself.
Like I could imagine a man, alone in his bed, haunted by thoughts of his wife having sexual encounters with foreign men while he’s alone at home.
I could imagine how a guy might feel humiliated and defeated because the marriage he’s in is a choice between letting his wife do whatever she wants… or else… and he needs to also do whatever she tells him to do… or else.
The more I think about this, the more I think there’s a marriage problem here that BOTH of you need to be really honest about with yourselves and with each other.
