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Me and my ex split up just over a week ago after being together for 3months.the relationship was fantastic. The time we spent together was amazing and we were our true selves to each other. Before we broke up he said he needed a weekend to himself as he thought he had upset me and was upset by it. I gave him the whole weekend. I messaged him and then he ignored it. When I finally got a reply he said his feelings had changed and it wasn’t what he wanted anymore. I was shocked! I then drove to his for a conversation he didn’t want but he told me if it helped me move on he would. It was difficult for us both. We both parted ways. I miss him immensely, will he come back?
Raven
Sorry, no- he will not come back…
It is normal & ok to miss him for a little while.
Newbie
No this is 99% sure over. Its the most common break up. After the honeymoon the guy realizes its not what he wants to commit to. You can Google 7 steps a guy Falls in love to understand the process.
To make it easier for you: 3 months is really not that long. Its sad it didnt pan out. Take careLane
I know your struggling because women hold relationships to a much higher bar than men do.
Men are far more interested and focused on their careers, its their ‘purpose’—what drives them so to speak so there are two contrasting needs at play between men and women.
You are operating from a very different lens than men do. Although you may be thinking this is great and its going well; a man is thinking “do I really want to spend potentially 50+ years with this woman??”
Woman unfortunately are very shortsighted when it comes to mate selection but men are far more logical and practical when it comes to selecting someone over the long haul. Many men are hit with what I describe as the *infatuation bug.* Its essentially a hormonal surge (fuzzy feelings) that only lasts a short time and then begins to dissipate anywhere between the first to third month. I raised two sons, whereas my youngest son has been bitten by the infatuation bug more times than I can count! His response when I ask what happened is typical: “they are really great ladies but I just lost feelings and didn’t want to see them again.”
My younger son is also what I refer to as a man-whore who will take easy sex if the lady proffers herself up to him. I taught my boys to treat women with dignity and respect but unfortunately when a woman throws themselves on him he has no respect for her and will take the easy sex when they give out the easy sex. That’s how a man’s mind works.
He symbolizes the majority of the men dating today which is why you really need to protect yourself and not believe what you hear or see until at least six or months have passed and he is still saying and acting the same way he did when you met. Until then you got nothing.
Ewa
and next time, please don’t be that girl who drives to someone’s house after breakup , I understand we all need to get the closure but after 3 months of dating you barely know him and he does not owe you anything. dating is hard these days
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