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Elle j
Had a really brief thing with a guy, I told him I was pregnant last April, he ran, wanted nothing to do with her, wasnt nice about it either.
A month before birth he msg to ask if I’d had baby. With lots of talk & forgiveness he’s made amends, is the best Dad ever.
I stay at his 2 nights a week, we haven’t slept together, he takes care of me, he is flirty, smiley & we have talked about another baby.
I have a male friend and my baby’s dad keeps asking where I’ve been, who I’ve slept with. Neither of us are with anyone else, I know he isn’t because he’s always on the phone to me.
He’s been constantly saying this other guy is my boyfriend when he isn’t, he doesn’t want the baby near other men, she’s his 1st child, he’s 47.
I love him & it’s tearing me apart.Paige
Based on what you said in your other post and in this one, I think that this is a Maury “Who’s the Daddy Day?” show in the making.
How old are you? You say he’s 47, but your posts lead me to believe that you might be in your early 20s at most (even though you now have three children). I can’t help feeling that you’re too young to see through his bullsh*t.
Why in the world are you even thinking about having another baby with this guy? It’s not hard to say that you both want to have another child, but it’s not that easy when (not if) he leaves again and you can’t track him down to make him pay child support.
This guy’s jealousy sounds like the behavior of a 16-year-old boy. If a chronologically-grown man displays this sort of possessiveness, complete with accusations thrown about, I fear that sort of mental and verbal abuse will eventually grow into physical abuse. Do you really want to live through that or have your kids exposed to it?
My advice (and take it with however many grains of salt you like) is to grow up and force yourself to read your posts from the perspective of an outsider.
Think of it this way:
If your daughter were to become infatuated with a guy who talked to her the way this guy talks to you, would you think that having ONE baby with him would be a good idea – much less planning to have ANOTHER one?
Would you worry that the next time he gets angry with her, he won’t stop with accusations? That he might beat the sh*t out of her?
Would you sleep easily at night?
Would you tell her that this kind of behavior is acceptable – that jealousy just shows how much he loves her?
Or would you tell her to stop thinking with her crotch, grow up, build a life for herself so that she doesn’t have to depend on ANYONE to “protect her emotionally” OR financially and to focus on growing HERSELF instead?
Imagine all that – then act accordingly.
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