I’ve been dating a guy for six months. We’d see each other at least once a week. He told me he loved me. We never really had the exclusivity talk but he referred to himself as my boyfriend. I believed him. We had fun and we were even making plans for future dates, like concerts a couple months away and summer vacations. He became very unavailable very quickly and slowly stopped responding to my calls and text messages in a timely manner. I finally texted him ‘Are we even dating anymore?’ And he never responded. I sent him a message that said ‘I guess I got my answer.’ And that was it. I haven’t heard from him since.
I’m not going to lie. Being ghosted by him really stung and I’m still hurt. It’s been three weeks. I had left my favorite sweatshirt at his house and I debated just not getting it back. But I liked it. A lot. I texted him and asked, “hey, anyway I can get my sweatshirt back? I feel kind of silly asking but it’s my favorite.” He texted me back and said “of course”. Now we have plans to meet up in a couple days. I hope I can manage my emotions. I’m still really hurt. I don’t really want him back but part of me wants to know why he ghosted me. And part of me wants to tell him what a jerk he is. I’m just not sure what to do. I kinda wish I would have just bought a new sweatshirt.
If you feel like it will be too much to see him, you don’t have to. You can respond back and say, something has come up and I cannot get my sweatshirt, don’t really need it that badly.
I’d respond saying I couldn’t make it if I felt seeing him would set me back emotionally.
Can you ask him to just mail the sweatshirt or drop it off at your house (while you’re at work)?
Then you’d have it back without throwing yourself into unwanted emotional turmoil.
Save your peace of mind!
I personally, wouldn’t ghost anyone. Theres a better way to do bad things. I think, regardless of how you are treated, you do the right thing, because you’re a good person. Even if you send a “it’s over” text, or a basic means to an end. Communicating your exit is a must. What you do thereafter is entirely your call. Go no contact, block them etc, thats your call. However I personally feel its the RIGHT thing to do by communicating its ended.
Wanting or hoping for someone to wonder & never have that closure? Shows your character more than anything.
do you know why people ghost, because they don’t want to completely end it with you in case it doesn’t work out with another person they can always come back.
the problem here is not the ghoster is the people being ghosted who whenever ghost comes back they welcome them with their arms open hence why people do that because they know they can
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