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Sara
During pandemic I lost touch with this guy at work. To be clear weren’t dating yet and just friends. Frankly, I would like to be more than friends. We moved to working from home so our connection withered down to no contact at all. He hasn’t been in touch at all.
We have known each other for 3 yrs. We are all now back in office. One morning he was near the entrance talking to someone and made eye contact with me a few times.
I did send a work related email and he responded. In actuality I just sent it to gauge his temperature about talking to me again.
I’m a bit shy about starting up contact again since it’s been so long. I almost feel like we’re strangers now and we have to start it again as a brand new relationship.
Does his eye contact with me at the door an invitation to pursue talking to him again? I don’t want to get rejected here.
Raven
Hi Sara, you’re reaching…
If you sent a work related email, of course he would answer… Making eye contact is polite.
That he didn’t contact you while you all were remote tells you what you need to know… Sorry
Liz Lemon
Yeah, Raven is right, responding to a work email means nothing. He’s required to respond to work email.
Making eye contact also doesn’t mean anything. Folks are coming back to my office nowadays too, and everyone is super friendly and chatty because we’ve been away from each other so long. There’s nothing romantic or sexual about it. I’ve chatted happily away with plenty of male coworkers I haven’t seen in 18 months, just because it’s nice to be back.
If he didn’t contact you at all during the shutdown, that says a lot. No friendly “how are you doing?” emails or anything? It shows he wasn’t thinking of you, I’m afraid. Sorry to say it. Do you even know if this guy is single?
Sara
Hi it’s hard to hear of course, that he’s not interested. Darn. I Guess it’s best I not reach out further. I’m sad because he made lots of effort to get to know me. Yes he’s single. I’m quite shy and don’t have many friends at work. Its lonely without him at work. I have made efforts, despite being shy, to make repoire with other co workers. But no one reciprocates my efforts. I feel it’s a waste of time. For example I will ask a co worker about their weekend and be a good listener. They will tell me lots. However they don’t ask me me anything. Im getting to think I’m born to be alone!
Cara
Hi Sara!! Sounds like you’re unhappy, and I hate to see it!! :(
Contrary to the others I’d like to say- what do you have to lose?
Talk to the guy and be tough a little!! I mean- from how I see it you can only win, you either get: – clarity -a new friend -possibly a lover -but even if not, maybe new friends AND in the worst of cases -life experience ! :D
believe in yourself and remember life is short <3
I think you should talk to the guy.. like try to be friends first and then get your groove on ;) :DD and if nothing happens.. whatever !
I’m saying this, understanding what its like to be shy, you gotta get out of your shell a little! What can happen?
Peace!
Cara xxSara
Hi Cara
Thanks for your uplifting reply!
Yeah what do I have to lose. If he’s just a casual friend, not a problem. If he were actually interested in dating me, that would have happened long ago!
Being shy, I don’t have many friends. I will reach out via work chat now and then for a bit of chit chat. If he pumps up the frequency great! If not, I won’t fall apart by any means.
Thanks for the support!
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