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Curious
Just curious to see what you all think about relationship timelines, for lack of a better word. We’ve only been dating a little over two months. We see each other 2-3 times/week but haven’t met each other’s friends or family. Is that a bad sign?
Raven
More details please… Why haven’t met?
Curious
No reason that I know of. He hasn’t asked. He just met my friends this past weekend for the first time. I was hosting an event at my house so I invited him. He’s not said anything about meeting his though so I’m just wondering if that’s a red flag/sign he’s not serious or as serious about me.
Curious
And sorry – I was misleading in my first post. He HAS met some of my friends. He has not met my family. I haven’t met his friends or his family.
Raven
My experience- A guy who’s into you wants to show you off…
Maybe not to family- but friends for sure
Curious
Oh I agree with that. I’m wondering how long into the relationship though. We talk everyday and see each other many times a week but we technically aren’t exclusive yet as we haven’t had that talk so I’m just wondering if this is the norm or not.
Gaia
Does he have a lot of friends or a core group that he talks about regularly? It is early yet for meeting families but I’m one of those that needs to be extremely sure of someone before you meet my family. I think it’s about the right time to be meeting his friends though so maybe you could suggest a friend meet-up for dinner or an event?
I wouldn’t worry overmuch about this though since it is fairly early on. But this is the time that he would be starting to integrate you more with friends and then eventually family.
Maddie
Some people don’t like to do introductions until they’re official. Others don’t care at all and will introduce you to friends early whether they’re serious or not and then end things later that week. Sounds like you’re trying to read tea leaves to figure out if he’s serious because you haven’t defined the relationship yet. I wouldn’t be worried about this yet. Just figure out what your own time limit is on becoming official and keep mutually building the connection but hold off on total emotional investment until then. If the conversation hasn’t organically come up by whatever your timing is or he hasn’t taken the initiative to keep the momentum going and define the relationship, then you’ll need to decide if you’re really compatible enough and on the same page or if it’s time to walk away. Tl;dr: gauging meeting friends can be a sign, but I don’t think it’s a meaningful one at this point unless he’s actively hiding you and avoiding introductions.
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