Pregnant with Ex, getting an abortion, should I tell him?

I recently broke up with my bf of 8 months, and found out I’m pregnant. I am not keeping the baby. We ended on ok terms because we still loved each other, but the relationship wasn’t working. It was a hard break up for that reason. I really miss him, but I don’t want to get back together. Should I tell him or just let him be?

Ellie what a nightmare! My advice would be the same as last time. Do you haveany support? If you do and you can get through this, don’t tell him. Why complicate things? But if you’re alone and think he could help, it may be a good idea.

One thing I mentioned last time is that, if you tell him, he’ll likely tell people. Pretty much all of my friends and acquaintances found out when I had an abortion because my ex told a couple of people, who told a couple of people, etc. It didn’t help me at all to have everyone talking about it.

I agree Sailor. Keep a baby you don’t want, have a mental breakdown and end up producing a messed up child…not a great plan! Even going through 9 months or pregnancy, everyone knowing, the shame of it and being all alone through it would have been too much for me to consider adoption. My close friend was adopted and had major issues with having been rejected by her birth mother. I’m sure not every adopted child feels that way, but I couldn’t bear the guilt if they did, ir if they came to find me when they were older and I wanted nothing to do with them. Abortion is never an easy decison but sometimes it’s the only option.