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Gaslighter
A lot of hurting people…for every action is a reaction. Get some fresh air. Breathe. Enjoy LIFE. Nature…whats natural and be free.
Jessie
I’ve had this weird on and off talking spree with this guy for like 6 months now, and just confused with what’s going on, we’ll talk for a few days, and flirt and he will be very suggestive and want to meet one on one ( I have met him many times but in a group situation with other friends) and then just gohsts me for a few weeks and then the same thing will happen, where we won’t talk from anywhere between a week and a month( one occasion had been longer about 4 months ago) I’m just not really sure what’s going on in his head, I know for a fact that he ‘speaks’ to many other girls, and has had many flings throughout this time( I assume that’s when he stops talking to me) but I always fall back in the trap, because I’m hopeful, should I just leave it go?
Lane
Hi Jessie.
Its called “e-tethering”. Best to sever the tether very early on so you don’t stay confused about something that really isn’t confusing at all. A man who really wants to be with you will plan LOTS OF DATES and be very consistent in his words and actions (both must mesh) over a long period of time (many months). If he’s not doing that, then drop him like a hot skillet so to you won’t keep burning yourself over and over again.
He’s a time waster so stop wasting your time on this one—it really is that easy!
rachel
i recently reconnected with a guy I dated 15yrs ago. He moved back to his native country and had recently gotten divorced. In the beginning it was come visit, bring a friend..very casual. Then as time progressed it became more along the lines of reconnecting as a love interest. We talked every day at least twice a day (7hr time difference). He started telling me he was developing serious feelings for me. I was as well. I was planning to visit him after the summer. I spoke with him on a Saturday and woke up to being blocked Monday morning…no explanation whatsoever. I was crushed. Now I am still in Limbo…sad thing is I would still listen to an explanation.
Tracy
Ditch him. He’s a time-waster.
Raven
Come on Rachel… Really you’d listen to a Houdini?
BTW, he blocked you cos his wife caught him!anon
I give my standard lecture on how painful their action was and how a simple 15 second text would have saved me a lot of pain and time.
Then I tell them to not date if they can’t communicate a need for space or a need to end things
Then I get my apology and usually an offer to make it up to me. Then I tell them to go jump off a bridge (though not that politely). -
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