Ladies,We need to talk!(Please read)

I agree and disagree in part. Ladies also need to take responsibility and ownership for their actions too. The biggest problem I see is they are trying to fill a void and place too high of a burden on the man to fill it. Men don’t have the desire a woman does to be in relationship as their needs are biologically (genetically) different than ours is. They are perfectly fine being single and engaging in short-term romances. If a man isn’t interested in settling down with a lady then he’s not going to act or behave in the way he KNOWS he needs to act to keep that woman in his life. Women miss these major clues because they are myopically focused on the relationship goal and not on where the man is mentally and end up in these situations because they don’t properly vet them. Men are pretty simple to figure out; its women who make it more complicated than it needs to be.

Women have this grandiose version of what they think love and relationships should look and feel like (e.g. Hollywood) instead of *accepting* [key word] the man for who he is, warts, flaws and all. They have this underlying need, based on their nurturing instincts to *fix him* when he’s not meeting her expectations or obeying her commands, which then perpetuates a cycle of dysfunction….wash, rinse, repeat.

A romantic relationship is not much different than any other relationship you have with family, friends, co-workers etc. If it starts out rough or in constant disappointment then how do you think that relationship is going to last? Instead of patiently waiting for the best guy to come along where you get on really well without any games; have very little issues because you not only communicate very well but you accept them for their differences, how they handle problems, how they deal with situations, and ultimately how you work together to solve them without a lot of needless drama. That relationship has the underlying foundation and structure to build on and last a long time—couples who don’t aren’t going to stand long.

Bottom line. Men AND Women are going to F UP. They are going to do and say things that irritate the heck out of another, no differently than you have said and/or did something that irritated the heck out of your parents, friends, a boss or co-worker. If you don’t have the proper knowledge or skills to deal with human F UPs then the relationship is going to end up in a miserable state of affairs.

Great point- thank you for writing this. When other women criticize each other on this site- it makes me cringe. Obviously if a woman comes onto this site for advice, they need support and validation for their feelings. It’s all in the delivery in the message, let’s choose our words kindly and wisely.

Great advice, RCS.. And yes, it makes me cringe also on this site when women don’t respect other women with their criticisms, Anon..

Thank you all for your feedback!..Anon,you put the icing right on the cake hunny!..My post wasnt to be directed towards the good men that are taking care of business & trying to build.. It’s for women dealing with grown boys who dont have what it takes to be a man let alone know how to handle being with a successful woman..After I ended my 8 year relationship with my first love,I haven’t been one to fall in love or seek love to often..Show me loyalty first!Put action behind those ‘sweet nothings’! Then we can see where things go..I also feel that every men whom a woman comes in contact with isn’t meant to be the man you for you..Some guys are just better off being a friend,nothing more.& To be true ,these days a strong friendship is better than a relationship title..I dont live in a fantasy world,this is real life for me & because of this There are a lot of women that dont understand my logic & how I handle my encounters with men..I know my worth,I have a lot to offer,& I have a lot going for myself..I really dont need a man for anything,not even his sex..So when men try me I never show my hand because i know that I have my sh!t together,many people know this,he most likely knows too!..I refuse to prove myself to a man first,show him what I have to bring to the table,or allow him into my world only to lean on me..What I’m trying to say is if you’re a good woman,have respect for yourself/others,& you’re successful then a man should be proving himself worthy enough for you!..It chess not checkers..A real man will want you for you!Not for your money & not for your body..Think about it Jay-Z cheated on Beyonce’ l0l that says alot!..