Is he into me? What does it mean?

The *inbetween* is known as an FWB/NSA. They aren’t wanting random ONS’s (one-night stands) but want to enjoy a ladies company, for a short bit, where they will then fade away or bounce entirely the moment SHE wants more than what he’s actually offering her.

He is known as a *timewaster* or *timekeeper.* When a man throws the “I’m not looking for anything serious line out, BELIEVE HIM, because he is being honest with you and warning you up front that he doesn’t want anything more than what he is offering you…a short term fling. The ONLY thing you should do when a man throws that out is to tell him “I thank you for your honesty but its clear we are on different pages so its best that we go our separate ways.” You then stop all contact and spending time with that man.

Your problem is, if you keep seeing this man, is that you’r OK with this short-term fling because YOU keep giving him your time. A smart lady who isn’t looking for something short term wouldn’t waste her time time with these men. Nope, she wouldn’t play his short-term game, and walk off the FWB/NSA field, if that’s not what she is wanting or looking for.

If you continue to play the short-term fling game with him, expect to be faded on or bounced (he disappears) if you don’t put out soon. Even if you don’t the moment you ask “where do we stand?” or tell him that you want more than what he’s actually offering you, is when he will start throwing out the excuses, such as “I’m really busy at work” until you never hear or see him again. This game is very popular today, so play it at your own risk.

If he misses out on the love of his life that is his problem. However, i for one don’t believe in “the one” concept and neither do many others. The love of someone’s life is usually the person we meet at a time when we are open to an honest and serious commitment. Quite clearly its not now for him.

Just because you don’t understand casual relationships does not mean there is anything inherently cowardly or wrong to them. Not everyone desires a serious relationship all the time. Some time people enjoy being single and keep things casual because they have other priorities in life. It’s completely legitimate and actually, i think it was decent of him to let you know what he is looking for.

It’s not for you to judge him or ask why. Just stick to your own principles and priorities and move on. 5 dates is nothing. I am sure you will find someone compatible and open for a relationship soon enough.

As a side note: Sex for a man is *an act*, no differently than grabbing a hamburger when they are hungry, washing their car, or watching their favorite sports team on TV. When they are horny they want sex but it doesn’t mean they want all the *constraints* a relationship requires, whereas, they want their sexual needs satisfied but want to remain single to do what they want, when they want, anytime they want, with *whomever* they want. Men can easily do this because of biological/DNA differences.

My brother-in-law said it pretty well when he told me “Women think that romance is what makes men fall in love but its not. Its when we only want to screw her, and only her, all the time. We instinctively know that in order to do that we have to get into a relationship, marry her and have kids.” That’s a man’s version. Interestingly my BF, and my cousins husband both nodded in unison (agreement) when he said it lol.

Only *some* women are capable of doing casual because they too are not emotionally open, ready nor wanting to be *tied down* but want to have their sexual needs met. You may not understand casual because you haven’t been in such as life phase, such as going through a difficult divorce, where you are not emotionally in a position to give anything to anyone but you miss the “companion component” such as doing coupley things and having sex but crave your freedom too. It works, for those, who are in that mindset, and that’s the mindset he’s in.