I feel so stupid

A guy who I’ve been speaking to for the psst 3 months finally faded out and ghosted me. I gave him time and space to think for about 10 days before I reached out to check if he is still alive and he came back after 2 days, normal, hope that my days are well. I should NOT have responded or maybe should’ve asked for what I wanted then! but John Gray’s mann-cave theory came into the picture and told me I should let this guy be as he might’ve just been stressed with work and since he lives in different states, he might need time to think on the distance. So i replied him with a rather /awkward/overthinking/ encouragement message. Now I feel stupid. I should’ve let him go. I need my dignity back. How do I feel better since he hasn’t replied again. How could I be so blind???