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There are some great answers here already, so I won’t restate what they’ve already said.
I agree with their points and first and foremost, that is my main answer too.
However, you asked what you can do, so I will speak to that because you asked.
For starters, let’s talk about mindset.
Treat this as already done, already over.
Why?
Because one of the worst mindsets you can be in is a woman trying stuff to save a relationship!
But if you treat it like it’s already over and there’s nothing to lose, then you’ll be in a better mindset to try stuff.
Not saying anything will lead to anything. Just saying if you’re trying to save/repair a relationship or “get him back”, you’re already screwed.
It’s better you’re loosey goosey, nice and easygoing about experimenting.
OK, so that’s the first requirement. If you care about what happens, forget it.
Give up on it first, then you’re ready. :)
OK so next, here’s a good core thought to work from.
This man is living his life.
He has hopes, dreams, motivations, fears, frustrations, regrets, aspirations, etc.
But most of the time he’s just doing the best he can to make it through the day. That’s just about all of us!
He has a life and primarily his focus in to deal with his life and find a way to win in this world in a way that’s meaningful to him.
“Winning” to him might look like getting to go on a fishing trip and drink beers with his buddies once every 3 months.
“Winning” might look like spending time with his son and teaching him how to fish.
“Winning” might be going to bars and having one night stands.
I don’t know what winning looks like for this guy. I don’t know much about his life and I don’t think you do either, yet.
If you want a man to think about you in a relationship context, then understanding his life and what “winning” looks like for him is your gateway.
That’s a mission of discovery, not a bag of tricks and tactics.
Funny thing is, even being genuinely, innocently curious about this aspect of his life can start putting you on track towards relationship potential in his mind.
Why? Because most women have no curiosity about any of this (despite it being where his love buttons are)!
Discover who he is as a man. Discover the journey he’s on, what he’s moving towards, what matters to him, etc.
When you understand his life, that’s where you may start to see if you fit.
If having you in his life helps him on his journey towards achieving the meaningful things he cares about, he will move closer towards seeing you as having relationship potential.
Now this all might be moot given the earlier context (and again, my main answer mirrors what SandinMiami and Liz Lemon said already).
I wanted to give you something to speak to “where do I go from here” and I figured if you’re asking, then this is an answer that will be helpful no matter what even if this guy is already gone.
Hope that’s helpful.
