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I have been with my girl for a while now. We have a great time together. We have our ups and downs like all relationships do. We bicker..argue..but eventually come together and talk. I admit that my communication sucks but she has and remains patient with me. I also admit I messed up I the beginning and I hurt her. I was secretly talking to other women online and she caught me. I lied about it still even is I knew she knew the truth. She did eventually accept and we worked on things. Now I know I can’t control when she “gets over” my betrayal. But she now thinks I am going to hurt her. I truly can see that fear in her. I hate I hurt her like that. I do. She sometimes accuses me of things, and I already know where that comes from. I never accuse her because she honestly doesn’t give me the reason to. She let me meet her mother and I knew that was a big big step for her.
Recently we had an issue and she called me out for it. I told her I was still at work and she knew I normally get off at a certain time. I lied about it. I don’t even know why. I lied to her. I told her I was still working when I wasn’t. I was home. She caught me because when I told her I was now leaving work, she called my phone. In her mind I should be in the car driving and she heard nothing but silence. Other times when I’m driving she knows the sound. She asked me what I was doing and me knowing I’m lying I got defensive. I yelled at her “I’m driving what the heck you men, you want to FaceTime me or something!” I already knew she wasn’t going to FaceTime me. Smh. It was such a small petty argument and I stupidly lied. She got off the phone crying. I’m sure she thinks I was with someone or talking to someone else. I know she knows I lied and I got annoyed. She questioned me and I got annoyed. Please help me what can I do? She cried getting off the phone. This is small but I want my girl. She has a right to accuse me at times, I did that to her I hurt her. I lied to her face on the past. Please help.
You are sabotaging a good thing and no one here can help you. Please go to a therapist to work out what you are doing and why.
Tell her you know you are doing it and want to get better and are getting some help.
You’ve posted about this before… I will tell you what I told you previously… Grow. The. F. Up!
You posted before as Malcolm and then ignored all the advice, no?