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Amber.
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Talia
The only reply I would send to this dude was is “who is this??” And then promptly ignored him.
Cathy
Its been 4yrs since you left this post..I hope you did the right thing and told him to f/o… I just got out of a 13 yr relationship after losing my husband to whom I was married to for 25yrs.. Losing him caused me to lose myself. When I met my EX he thought I was going to get a sizeable Judgement so he treated me with great respect, dignity and kindness.. After hearing the judgement wasnt going to happen everything started to go down hill. Because I had steady income he was still there putting on the charm. But things started happening. No physical Abuse but emotional and psychological abuse was there. I was with a narcissist without realizing what that type of person was. I should have ran the first time he told me I had to return pots and pans that were given to me for a birthday present. THEN KICKED out of the house to sleep in the car to be woke up before any of the neighbors could see me in the morning. THEN left down town Miami with no money..This can go on and on.. But I stayed with this abuse for 13 years.. I bought my own house close to him again another mistake..Where I should be is with my kids..I went 2mo. with no phone calls no visits not a word from him..I could feel myself starting to heel, get stronger and realize the bigger picture..THEN the phone rings would you like to go to the movies on XMAS Day?.I did because I didn’t want to be alone like I did for Thanksgiving..We went to the movies afterwards he dropped me off at my house..The very next day I get a disgusting txt for BOOTY CALL…It took me a while to reply nicely NO NOT INTERESTED.. THEN he showed up at my house on New Years Eve.. 2 days later a more disgusting text for BOOTY call.. AGAIN NO NOT INTERESTED IN ANY BOOTY CALL… IVE LEARNED I don’t have to take anybody’s abuse anymore… I can do what I want and have what I want. A partner is not suppose to dominate you, walk in front of you, sit before you, walk into a door before you..I New all these things I just forgot…If you have to think so much and so hard to please someone ITS not worth the relationship. It should come naturally. If you can’t laugh more than you bicker get the hell out..
I JUST WASTED 13 YEARS I CANT GET BACK..IM ALMOST 60 YEARS OLD..THOSE WERE THE PRIME YEARS OF MY LIFE. DONT LET IT HAPPEN TO YOU!!!!!Amber
Lauren, I hope you haven’t let him use you for sex, as that’s all he wants. If you do I can say with absolute certainty – he won’t respect you for allowing it. You broke up with him because he was too casual. And then you allow him back? This would scream of your weakness & inability to know what you really want.
A man may not overtly say it but – he will think it. The bad part about it is- he will treat you accordingly. With NO respect whatsoever.
Please close the door on this guy and look for someone whose on the same page.
Mod update: Hi Cathy and Amber, thanks for sharing with the community! I’m sorry to hear about your situation, Cathy, and I hope you’re able to find your way to happiness.
To everyone else, as others have pointed out, this topic originally started many years ago. Old topics tend not to get full involvement from our community. We’d like to keep our topics fresh and new here, so if you’ve arrived at this topic and you’d like to share your own story, you’re welcome to do so in a fresh new thread. Thanks everyone, best wishes to you all.
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