He Texted Last, Now Nothing

hmmm guess i was asking if this is normal, i’m new-ish to the online dating scene. Either way, i’m not going to text him. it was very consistent communication before this 3day “break” so if he wants to find me, he’s got my number.

Guess i already have sorta “moved on” since i’m going on a new date this week. Of course i want the other gentlemen to reach out to me and see where the relationship goes, but i’m also not into waiting around so i’m continuing to date.

has He asked you out again? I find a lot of men fade at the 4 date time. It sounds like you are being warm and receptive.

Remember 0 f$cks until someone is your boyfriend.

One thing to think about, I generally stay away from any ‘I miss you’ type stuff, it can come across as needy and not very engaging?before you are exclusive. I don’t think you did anything wrong, just nex time move to “thinking about your cute face”

Forgot to answer, no. There has not been another date setup as of yet.

Again, i’m not the type to wait so I’m going on a new date. Completely agree with the 0 f**** mentality lol

And thanks for your thoughts about the 4th date fader, this is good to know!

one last thing, make sure that by the 4th date you pay for something – movie tickets, drinks, a cab etc.

Good men appreciate it.

I liken online dating to kids in a candy store where they have sooooo many options they can’t just pick one, you were the flavor of the month and he’s found another to text sweet nothings too…men know how to use their words to keep a lady interested and your right, its the ACTIONS that will determine if they blowing smoke up your you know what.

Never believe you made a connection with a man until you are in a relationship. Men don’t connect like ladies do, connect with their dinger (the southern region) and that’s what drives them until they decide if there is more to the lady than just a roll in the hay. Yeah there’s those very rare cases of ‘love at first sight’ but just know its highly unlikely you will experience it which is why its best to keep your expectations very low in the first month or two, then continue to reassess to determine if there is actual progress or they are just time wasters.

Good that you seek the action behind a man’s words and keeping your options open for the right one, not just anyone. Trust me your text didn’t hurt you, as a man who is truly into a lady would love to receive that kind of a text from a woman he wants to be in a relationship with—it only scares the time wasters off haha.

Lane – absolutely! it’s ALL about ACTION. sure we had great chemistry but i’m just not the gal to fall head over heels until i see the action/investment.

Do i miss the flirting? Of course! but i can also, find another flirt anywhere and as far as my text goes, i’m not worried. we were always very flirty, my text was just being typical.

My date on Wed is with a man who’s 41 (so a little older than the last), we shall see how it goes, but i’m excited about it :)

Just updating…still haven’t heard from him (no surprise there haha). If it goes through tomorrow that will be a week of NC, remember he was the last to text and I HAVEN’T tried to reach him.

Just curious though, should i “unmatch” him on the dating app? He’s still there matched with me and it’s kinda funny since it’s gone radio silent.

Lastly, my date last night with the other gentlemen went well. We have another date setup for this Saturday. We shall see where this one goes lol

I would unmatch. There’s no way a guy who was into you would let 6 days go by with zero contact.

You said he texted last, but really he was just texting in response to your “miss you” text. Saying “oh yes me too” isn’t initiating a text. So technically YOU were the last to initiate. And he has not stepped up and initiated since then. There should have been no hesitation on his part to reach out, if he were interested.

I would focus on the new guy! A 2nd date with him sounds promising. The 1st guy may have found someone he felt a stronger connection with. Or who knows, people fade out all the time in online dating. It happens, you can’t take it personally. Just unmatch and move on.

You’re giving this guy too much of your mind space before he has even earned it.

He probably sent this to several girls unfortunately

Definitely delete and move one

Ew all around. Don’t want to be a downer, but I’ve been on first dates with men, who said they were 40, but were actually 45. Don’t know why the 40 is the magic number where the lying starts…

Cheers! I wish more women acted like you do as there would be less dating issues and nothing for us to respond to haha.