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Anne.
Dyanne
Sophia, when you care and get angry, that is a response to your unfulfilled expectations. For example, the OP expected him to answer her message in timely manner. For her, that timely manner was around 4 hours. After those 4 hours she was feeling anxious, annoyed and angry. All these were not because of him not responding. It was because she EXPECTED him to answer in less than 4 hours.
When you begin shifting your thoughts like this you will start to see your own triggers and what your expectations are. And you understand it is not the other person’s fault. People can act however they like, you cannot control that. But you can control your reaction to their behavior. And then you start to assume responsibility for your feelings and learn not to expect people to behave in a certain way. This is where “happy but indifferent” attitude comes from
SM
Hey :) it will feel great if u help out cause my story is a little more complex….I met this guy online and we had been talking for about a month when I started developing feelings for him but some days later he told me about this girl he likes and I was devastated…..so to stop these feelings cause he clearly just liked me as friends I told him that I like him and I need some time to get over him so I should delete the app we have been chatting on and he was very understanding and let me go even when I said for a few years …..but I couldn’t get myself to delete the app and all the convos we’ve had and then after some days. I get a text from him sending me an update about him for when I come back after a few years….by mistake I clicked on the chat and therefore it showed that I read his message and I felt I couldn’t just not text back so I wrote to him that I couldn’t get myself to delete the app and that I would also send an update to him to keep us connected,……idk I was expecting an ok …or see you something but he read it and didn’t text back….now I am forced to assume he doesn’t wanna talk to me any more or something like that:(
tammy
you realise this is just virtual?
Raven
This is a lot of drama for someone you’ve never met…
Anne
Why even wasting time on someone you have never met?
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