Guy I was “dating” ghosted before our sixth date.

He ghosted before our 6th date.

I’m a 23F and he is a 55M. He has two children. 13yr old daughter and 32 yr old son We’ve been “dating” in a LDR for five going on six months. Last night, we talked on the phone about how we would spend some time together for two days. He started saying ‘I love you’ two months in the situation ship. I ended up saying it back weeks later. So, last light, he said “call me in the morning.” I said “Yea, you’re going to cancel on me anyway, that’s your m.o.” He replied “no, I’m not.” I believed him because I’ve grown to love and care about him.

He canceled twice before because he said he was sick one time, and the other time he said he was spending time with his kids. So, last night I mention that we should meet each other families. He said “we will talk about all that when I see you tomorrow.”
I said “okay.” We hadn’t seen each other for two months. I texted him multiple times asking ‘do you want to just have sex or start dating,’ and ‘We need to end this now if you don’t want use to continue to see each other.’

I messaged him that and he continued to use me and say “I love you [Name], and I want us to grow with each other. You think I would say that if I didn’t mean it.” I always felt something was off but I just thought it was my overthinking coming into play. I called him this morning as he asked and he didn’t pick up. I waited an extra hour and I called back and texted “I guess I don’t need to come up because you didn’t answer.” I called one more time and he canceled my call. He didn’t cancel it right off but he did in the 4th ring. I sent him 4 messaged back to back—about three sentences a piece. I don’t care, I have a right to let him know how I felt.

I said to myself wow, to say I was upset and hurt was an understatement. I am not crying but I am very hurt. Being ghosted hurts because we were starting to developer something serious—or so I thought. I didn’t mind the age gap. I have no idea about his thoughts At first our situation was just sex and it developed–or so I thought. I guess he got scared and floated away without a goodbye. I guess no answer is an answer in my situation. It ended and I’m the one left hurt. He’s probably smiling and having a good ole day. I will recover just fine but it hurts.

Can you all give me some advice please? Thanks for reading.

All I can do is move on. I wish guys would communicate. Before you say this is nasty…. You can keep it to yourself, because I still love him and the wound is still fresh. It happened today 9/5/2023