confused by ex's behavior

Sorry HS but you are in denial of your feelings. You say you don’t know what his intent is and you don’t know what you want but the one thing every poster here has picked up on is that you clearly are wanting it to be more. I don’t know why you deny this when its obvious from your posts you want this to be more than friends. If this was purely platonic you wouldn’t even be asking these questions or trying to convince us all how “deep” the conversations are. Deep means nothing,ziltch, nada. In fact with the two guys that I’ve dated and ended up just being friends with both completely opened up to me in an entirely different and more open way than when we were dating. Both guys tell me all sorts of deep and dark stuff and they do so because they are not trying to impress me or want more with me …. it’s purely because I’m a pretty open and unshockable person in general and they trust me as a friend.

I’ve had sex with both these guys. Ive had totally amazing dates that we have referenced months later. We will talk for hours and hours but it means nothing at romantically.

If you are not even sure what you want from him anyway then just let it be… do what you are doing regarding initiating etc and just stop analysing him and everything he says because if you don’t want more then the “why” of his conversations are meaningless anyway.

And finally, no one on this site has been rude, unkind or even vaguely down on you to warrant your defensive comments. You’ve asked for opinions on your exes actions and then threw your toys out the plan when everyone has independently reached the conclusion you don’t like