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Rosii
Met a guy online while I was on vacation for 2 Months.
He wanted to talk on the phone and we had a good time since we shared the same humour.
A few days later he asked me to meet and I agreed.
Had a long date cafe, dinner, karaoke.When we parted he wrote immediately. We Scheduled a date the next day.
Everything was great for the second date, he kissed me before we parted and become a couple (guess that was too fast but I’m needy and agreed).Soon it became weird. He had 3 days off instead of inviting me out he didn’t. If I didn’t ask we wouldn’t meet that day.
Somedays later he wanted to come to my home after work. He went to his home first but fell asleep. That made me super angry, so on the next day we met and I was pissed. Because I was angry on that day he stood me up 3 times. Told me he got anxiety wtf because I was in a bad mood we met although he made time to meet me.
Now it’s a long-distance thing and the flakiness continues. I think the reason is I came on too strong when everything was fresh. Gonna ignore him now and see how he is reacting. If he writes again and shows guiltiness I may give him his last chance. If not, sayonara
Khadija
Sounds like you had a fling on your vacation.
What exactly do you want from a man who is long distance?Rosii
you’re right but I’m in his country every year so i thought why not
Khadija
Nothing wrong with going on vacation and enjoying yourself.
However, I just don’t find it realistic to expect much to come out of this.kaye
When you were in the same country this guy was flaky and stood you up on more than one occasion!! You think now that it’s long distance that will get better? UMM…NO!! You are needy and he has anxiety and stands you up. This wouldn’t have worked if you stayed in his country and it certainly won’t work long distance!!
What’s the point in last chances and extending this when it doesn’t even make you happy? Just be done already!
Tallspicy
Honey this is not him problem this is a you problem. You know you’re needy so why are you dating? Why did you get committed to someone you met twice who doesn’t even live where you live? Why do you not pay attention to his actual behavior?
Healthy people do not do any of these things and you sound very unhealthy emotionally. I suggest you break it off with him and do a lot of self work before you date again. Long distance isn’t for the faint of heart. It doesn’t sound like either one if you have what it takes to make it work
Wait to see if he apologizes? Honestly giving you advice seems like a waste of time because you don’t seem like a person who understands how to have any boundaries whatsoever. I am saying this very harshly so you understand. My personal opinion is you should not be dating at all. Anyone who agrees to be exclusive so fast and is so pushy about spending time with someone because they are know that they are nearly means that you’ve got work to do on yourself before you’re out there with other people.
cupcake
i think its time to move on!
Alice
Yikkes! I’d say this was a fun memory and only that. I know it’s not the result you wanted but I promise there is someone out there who is better and you’ll realize that as soon as you find that person. So be quick to find that new person and forget this other dude.
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