Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

More things happened since I wrote here, so I update, he told me that he doesn´t want to change the picture because he wont let me win this time because it is something dumb, those are his literal words.

He is right about something we turned into a competition since it is bothering me that he can’t do one thing that I asked him.

We are not very far away but enough to not be able to see each other during the week,he works in another city but that isn’t a problem because that will change soon.

The fights were because I think he is relaxing too much, in the past he used to do things like taking the car on friday when he finish work and coming to see me, now I was even neglected by him watching a football game, it wasn’t something big but it got me thinking he lost a bit of interest.

You know when you give someone the satisfaction that what they do can get to you, they will continue to do it.

First of all, you can’t tell someone what their profile picture should be when it doesn’t involve anything indecent or of you. I would fix this situation by completely ignoring the picture. When my boyfriend gets upset with me, he likes to post quotes that is a silent message to me. I give him zero reaction and the story ends there, the end. I let him get over his mood swings and he soon realizes how petty he’s being.

Secondly, i don’t know how long exactly you’ve been together but I’m guessing you have at least a year in. He has become complacent and it is normal. All guys stop doing what they use to after a while being with their girl. I suggest you be smart about this and silently appear to be losing interest in him. He needs motivation and a wake up call. He needs to miss you. If he knows he is going to see you gaurantee every weekend there is no need for him to do much during the week. Start taking a weekend to yourself time to time. Just like he did to watch his football match. Try to get him to do new things such as video chat instead since he knows he might not see you. He needs to make an effort because this is a classic case of a man starting to take his girl for granted.

Sil, I think this is a symptom of the deeper problem you have with your boyfriend. You haven’t figured out how to resolve conflict together in a way that doesn’t push each other’s buttons. It sounds like you both dig in and lash out, more focused on who is right and winning than you are on getting to the outcome you want, which is resolving whatever your issues are as a team in ways that make you mutually happy. So while yes, you are overreacting about the profile photo, I understand why it’s associated with the problems and is causing you stress because you both haven’t fully solved and moved past in a way that would prevent them from repeating. That’s a bad feeling.

But focus on solving the real problem with him, which is you both looking up better tools for how to “argue” with your partner that doesn’t actually cause harm to the relationship. Sources are out there and exist, it’s a good learning opportunity time and will strengthen your relationship instead of putting on a bandaid until the next disagreement.