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Lupin.
Linda
So I saw this guy on instagram by accident and i really like him. I would like to send him a message but I dont want it to be creepy. I mean we dont know each other and he lives in another state. I already searched for him on google and i found where he lives and work and i know his Phone number. I know it Sounds weird but I cant stop thinking about him. I dont know what to do. I really would like to meet him but i dont even know if hes single.
Peggy
He lives in another state and you know nothing about him. What good could come of contacting someone that lives so far away? Yes you sound stalkerish.
Peggy
P.S. You can not like someone you have never met. You think he looks cute…that is it.
Raven
Yes, you are a stalker…
Ss
Yep. A creepy stalker 🤷♀️
Lane
Yup, you are a stalker, and should seriously stop stalking strangers online like this. You would freak me the heck out if you contacted me! Start taking up better hobbies.
Anon 2
Seriously? If this is a real post im flabbergasted…
Liz Lemon
How would you feel if a complete and total stranger in a different state called you up and said they had found you on Instagram, had googled you, got your personal information, and that they were romantically interested in you?
Lupin
Liz Lemon brings up a good point – what if something like this happened in the other direction?
I’ve seen women on social media share screen captures of messages they receive “out of the blue” from men who live far away. The men contact them on Instagram or Facebook, tell them they’re beautiful, and try to start conversations. A lot of the messages seem awkward and hopeless or inappropriately sexual. The people sharing these screen captures are usually ridiculing the men for initiating a conversation this way.
So yeah, when people initiate these conversations this way, they’re often ridiculed. You probably shouldn’t try and initiate a conversation that way, because it usually doesn’t go to good places.
I will admit, I have met some very good friends because I chatted with “strangers” on social media. But these are friends, not romantic partners. It’s different. If you’re already building up romantic ideas in your head, stop now!
Even if it’s not stalking, it’s not healthy. Sorry! Move on…
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