All going well but I've started overthinking maybe?!

So I’ve been seeing this guy for the last 6 weeks. We’ve been going on dates once week roughly and they have been brilliant dates. He is very attentive when with me and never even looks at his phone when we are together. That’s relevant because the guy barely texts unless its to arrange a date. I’m fine with that mostly as hate constant text convo when I’m busy but we don’t chat on the phone much either. I’ve not been bothered because his actions on dates demonstrate he is in to me just fine. He plans lovely thoughtful dates and nearly always insists on paying but I do put my hand in my pocket and insist some times because I don’t think men should pay all the time. He communicates well, so he told me today that he is going to have to reschedule our date planned for Wednesday because of work commitments – it’s completely genuine and I knew it was a possibility so appreciate him telling with plenty of notice.

We decided to be exclusive a couple of weeks back. We had the dtr and he is clear he only wants to date me, came off apps after meeting me and has not spoken to or been dating anyone else. We have had sex and he hasn’t pulled back afterwards. He is very clear in what he says he wants. But here is the problem. We are both ridiculously busy. We both run our own businesses and take our careers seriously. He also has pretty hefty child care commitments so we can’t see each other 4 out of 7 days a week. My work means I often have evening appointments which tend to fall on at least one of the three days we have left. We both have been happy single in recent months and have full lives with friends and hobbies. Since the world is opening up we’s both already filled our diaries with planned nights out/events and I don’t think it’s right either of us cancel pre arranged things. But it leaves us with really limited time. He has more stuff that is prebooked than me – festivals and gigs. At times I’ve been tempted to ditch my plans to see him but I don’t want to do that – i don’t want to be that kind of doormat woman who compromises so much and loses herself. I’ve  been her in the past and learnt its not healthy at all and I am not going to be so invested in a man that isn’t my boyfriend.

We are at the in-between stage when dating when we don’t know each other well enough to be all in or to have big expectations, but are both keen to see where things go. We get on brilliantly and everything is great between us when together – a real honeymoon stage I guess. Its such early days that I don’t feel I can expect too much by way of a commitment as we are just learning about whether we are compatible, but I also feel a bit concerned that if I am too accommodating he may end up taking it for granted and thinking I’m OK as an option to be fitted in when it suits him. He hasn’t indicated anything like that but has said he likes that I’m not huffy or pushy about his being so busy. I don’t want to be the ‘cool girl’ type so I do stick to my plans even when it means I miss an opportunity to see him.  I am fine with it for now but I think that I have a kind of hope/expectations in my mind where things should escalate and we would integrate our lives more if we continue dating over the coming months. I don’t have any intention of expressing that to him it’s just what’s in the back of my mind – that I need to watch, wait and evaluate. If it doesn’t seem like he is making efforts to fit me in then at some point I’ll have to step away because I don’t really want a one day a week boyfriend!
I suppose I’m just seeking reassurance and  views. I don’t want to mess things up or to be taken for a fool so I’m feeling a bit anxious about it and just the timing … how long is one  week ok for? In my mind I’m thinking 3 months tops. My thought process is to lean back, be open to seeing him when it suits us both but keep in mind if he isn’t choosing me over stuff with his friends even if it means not seeing me at all that I will need to cut him lose.

I feel like I’m maybe being overly cautious  but I don’t want to waste my time if it’s not going anywhere and I also don’t want to start bringing a pushy anxious vibe. I’m trying go guard my heart and not over invest and feel I am mostly succeeding in that as my attitude feels sane, not anxious, not needy. I am enjoying getting to know him. I feel in a good place with dating atm and that I’ve learnt so much the past couple of years so whilst it has its disappointing moments dating has not been a hard slog recently. The only thing i have had a little difficulty with is that I found the lack of texting perplexing initially. I think the text thing is such a social construct and is seen as the norm and measure of interested a man is by so many women that it threw me a bit. I genuinely don’t even like the disruption of constant texting all day it just feels like pressure and builds false intimacy. If we weren’t seeing each other regularly then it would be an issue but tbf he never goes more than a day without initiating contact. Am I overthinking this?