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Home › Forums › Dating and Sex Advice › When a man says he "wants to be left alone",does that just mean by ME?
Kelly.
Bianca
A guy that I’ve been seeing for the last year went ghost on me for a few days. When I asked what was going on he said that his life has gotten “slightly complicated”. I asked if he wanted to elaborate, he said “no”. I don’t need to know every detail of his life, maybe he just needs to sort things out on his own. He assured me it has nothing to do with another girl, which I actually believe. He then told me he “really just needs to be left alone”. I’m sure he’s got things going on in his life, he just started a new job. Wouldn’t he want my support? Does this mean that he just wants ME to leave him alone? What should I do? Just give him his requested space? I don’t want to lose him :(
Poppy
You’ve been seeing a guy for a year?
No commitment? Are you BF/GF?
Bianca
No, we’re not bf/gf,but that’s not the point. I don’t like labels
Ash
A guy that ghosts after one year, (unless he’s in the hospital and lost his phone in a car accident) is not a guy to keep dating IMO.
Communication is important within the context of a relationship. One year is enough time to get this in order. If he chooses to check out rather than communicate, at the very least, this will cause problems down the line in more dire situations, at most, he was never in this for the long haul to begin with.
So to answer your question, yes, give him the space he wants, permanently.
Poppy
It is the point, because after a year there’s been no commitment, which to me straight away says he is not pursuing you, which means he is not interested.
If a man was interested and really wanted you and only you, meaning no-one could have you, you would be exclusive.
He doesn’t want to talk/open up to you, so can I ask why you’re wasting your time pursuing a man that doesn’t seem interested?
Leave him alone and see where it goes.. As I don’t think it’ll go anywhere and he is just buying time.
Kelly
He was very clear that he wants soace from you and doesn’t want to divulge this recent ‘complication’
You can honor that or not. No one on here knows what he is thinking or if he is excluding others from his life. Sinc eyou can only control your behavior, give him the space and let him come back to you.
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