He gave me std but I still want him back

Oh boy!
Where is your self esteem and self worth?
Looks like you have bigger problems besides an std.
Please work on yourself first and foremost.

Awwwww sweetie. Try your best to get over this immediately. He is so not worth your time.

Im sure its from him. He is the only guy Ive been with.

Thank you for all your replies. I already tested positive to the HPV causing cancer. I guess thats what upsets me more and want him back. I needed his support but he ditched me.

I’ve been dumbfounded before on this site by posts, but……

WTH!!!!!!!!!!!
I wish I could put that in giant letters. This is crazy. He treated you like trash but you seem to allow and worse….welcome it.

This makes me so mad because it’s beyond sad.

You have no healthy (literally) boundaries and it seems little to no self esteem.

RCS got it right. This guy is nothing but a clown.
Stick him on his unicycle and send him on his way without a backward glance!

Please work on valuing yourself much more than this. I just don’t know what to say,

Is this a joke? Seriously….?

This man has given you an STD that could cause your death… he dumped you via text after admitting he’s a ho… and you want him back. Have you looked into a career as a professional doormat? I can only hope this is a joke post.

This girl’s experience, if this is real, is the reason to keep the body count down. From the NHS site on HPV:

“You will quite often hear that women who started having sex young or women who have a lot of different sex partners are more likely to get cervical cancer. But really, this is only true because the earlier you start having sex and the more men you have sex with, the more likely you are to pick up an infection with a high risk (cancer causing) human papilloma virus (HPV). And so then you are more at risk of developing cervical cancer.

It is not correct to say that women who get cervical cancer have it because they were promiscuous (slept around). After all, you could have only slept with one man and still caught the virus if he had it. If he’s had lots of partners, that will increase your risk, because it indirectly exposes you to possible sexual infections from lots of other people.”

Jess,

First of all, lets focus on what is the most important. HPV is a virus like so many others, and like so many others, many still undiscovered, it can cause cancer. But it does not have to. If your immunity is healthy, if you eat properly, exercise regularly, keep positive outlook, your immune system will fight everything off. There are people who are HIV (not HPV) positive and live for 25 years completely healthy. Oh and btw, many viruses can be transmitted via kissing, regular kissing.

This research into viruses is all new, we are going to hear a lot of things, this or that virus causes this and that, but in truth, there are thousands of viruses (and many have not yet been discovered and recognized) that can cause all sorts of things, given the right conditions. So if you are worried about potentially developing cancer, I know it is easy for me to say, but I’d encourage you to read up on it, look into different points of view, not only what the mainstream medicine is shoveling down out throats. If you focus on healthy lifestyle, exercise and limit stress, your immunity will not allow pathogen cells to grow and spread. And I also suggest you do the same test somewhere else, if you go on vacation to Mexico or Cuba, Cuba has a very good medicine. or Europe. You night find different results there. There are false positives, false negatives, wrong diagnosis, what not. It is very important not to trust one source or one doctor.

Then about this guy. If he is your first one, of course you feel attached. You are also very vulnerable right now, scared, so you feel you want him back. He told you the truth, that he wants to sleep with other women, he does not want to settle down or even stay with one GF. He told you the truth, listen to it and believe him.

You will continue to miss him, it will take a while for you to recover, but you need to focus on yourself. You sounds like a very nice and genuine and decent girl. Why don’t you research this virus which can be sitting dormant for decades and literally do nothing or actually even destroy other viruses (they are now using viruses to kill more dangerous viruses, and there are thousands of those, of which we only know a handful). You will find a lot of useful information that will also help you stay healthy in the long term. Focus on you. Your needs, your health, your future. Leave this guy alone, how did you even get involved with him in the first place? When a guy says he is “busy” it usually means “busy with someone else”.

You need to pre-screen guys more carefully, players usually give out certain vibes that more experienced women can detect pretty quickly. Look back and see if there was something in him that could have tipped you off and pay attention next time.

So don’t fret over this virus, many women have it, plus dozens of others that we are not aware of. And whether something can cause cancer is not the fact that it will. Eating junk food can do that to you too. There are chemicals in chewing gum that are known to be carcinogenic and yet how many people do chew them and not get cancer. These days, given the amount of pollution we are exposed to, anything can cause cancer, especially in complication with high stress.

I hope you value yourself enough not to contact this person and not to get back with him even if he asks. Please focus on your well being and your needs.

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Post is 3 years old just about!!